Not all men are made of tin with nerves of steel. A lot of them have the same insecurities and fears as a woman because they are human. They worry about what we are thinking just as much as we worry about what they are thinking.

This is a bit romanticized, because even if you do find the person you would give everything up for, that doesn't mean that you would always have a way to be together.
As for me if there was a possibility for us to be together then yes I would. But in truth I only look for guys that are close to me and know that there is a real possibility for us to be together.

If the guy approaches me, then no I'm not shy about responding. I figure that if he takes the chance the least I could do is respond, even if I'm not interested. Be it on line or in person. But I know that a lot of guys have the same insecurities or fear of rejection too. I'm just not able to approach them.

I totally agree
1. posts let us see what you think to get to know you, 2. Not all the women are looking to just hook up for sex, 3. I think most are looking for vertical people, because doesn't the horizontal go with #2

I see this as a common problem in a lot of relationships too. My sister and brother-in-law are constantly fighting about this subject. He says that he is always asking her because if he chooses something she doesn't like she will be a witch to him the whole time. She says that she just wants him to make some decisions once in awhile.

In my opinion, I think making the decision together is best but also taking turns once in a while keeps things fresh.

There is some really great advise so far, thanks for all of it.

One of the obstacles in my path is that I'm not in a place where I can meet people. (My town consists of about 600 people, mostly elderly) Nor do I have a social network to rely on. So meeting people to casually ask them for coffee, movie, etc. is kinda hard. The other would be that I am not exactly comfortable in public. (Part of my insecurity).

Again thanks for the advice.

Speaking from experience on part of this. I was good friends with a guy but not attracted to him physically. My family really liked him and kept pressuring me to date him. I gave in and regret that I did. It ruined our friendship. He thought there was more to us even though I gave no sign that there was. He claimed I was leading his emotions on just to dump him later.

My answer is if you are not attracted to the person physically, emotionally, mentally, then no it's not a good idea to date them.

I'm a very shy person and not very confident. In other words when I meet a guy and think that I would like to get to know him better or when I see a guy somewhere and am attracted to him, I'm not able to walk up to him and ask for a number, date, etc.
So, what I would like to know is how some of you have gotten over these or any other kind of insecurities to start dating again?

Thanks for the "Welcomes", I am enjoying the site so far!

Hello everyone, I am new to the site and finding it to be nice, but I have one question. If this is a dating site to meet people then why are people posting pictures that are not actually them. Not that I don't like some of the interesting pics, but there is no way I am answering a mail from a guy that isn't brave enough to show his true picture.