Every now and then I get fed up of UK guys and fantasise about meeting a gorgeous, masculine farmer from Wyoming. I would get up at the crack of dawn to help out with the animals, tend my organic vegetable garden, fish and freeze my a** off ... obviously this is a total fantasy as I’ve only ever been to Florida and NYC (yep, I’m a total tourist ). In saying that, if I was on an extended holiday/vacation to the US (or further afield), I probably would consider a holiday romance but it would end on my flight home as a) would not trust someone who would randomly have sex with someone on holiday and b) I would not trust someone that I would only see a handful of times year.

Transatlantic relationships can (and do) work – I know of a few examples within my own circle of friends and acquaintances where they have worked but the question I’m asking is would you do it? Please state reasons for and against thanks

NO! It's hard enough being long distance in the SAME country!

That's very true..although you would probably see your transatlantic more often!

I'm not sure about that, but right now, I can't see her much less!

It all depends on the emotional connect shared between the individuals. Often we decide that we ain't going to do it for the other person. And then suddenly someone strolls along and one feels like giving up everything just to be with that person.

Nope. Not interested in long distance relationships.

I think you may be right Void...There’s always that ONE person that makes you bark like a dog, sends you into a tailspin and before you know it, your breaking every rule you set yourself....

Not even for those rare/far and few between guys that turn your insides to mush and make your common sense fly out of the window?..I hadn't considered 'those ones' when I wrote this post

They can work if you have spare money and enough time off work, and at least one person is willing to move. Without these things i would not advise it. This goes for any LDR, transatlantic or not.

Like you, I was thinking with my head when I originally wrote this post. Reading Void’s response, made me realise that I would (probably) have a totally different response if my heart was involved...I don't disagree with you Dan, I just think my response might be different if the questions wasn't hypothetical

Doubtful. It's hard enough meeting anyone local, but anything long distance would be tons worse. I have the addition of animals that I wouldn't be getting rid of to move.

Also, using the UK as an example, I wouldn't be able to bring my dogs in, even If I could afford it. Your entire banned breeds thing totally screws me at this point in time (15 yrs or so). I have a Dogo Argentino and two pit bulls, and I couldn't risk them being brought over, only to be told they weren't allowed and had to be put down. According to what I read, I wouldn't even be given the chance to ship them back to the US, which is kind of crappy, IMO.

TBH, for me as well. If I was younger, no kids, no fickle cat, no mortgage etc, I would be more likely to throw caution to the wind and follow my heart.

No. I have no desire to get involved in a long distance relationship. I want to be able to see the person I'm dating when I want.

This is a bit romanticized, because even if you do find the person you would give everything up for, that doesn't mean that you would always have a way to be together.
As for me if there was a possibility for us to be together then yes I would. But in truth I only look for guys that are close to me and know that there is a real possibility for us to be together.

nope but due to certain circumstances I am in a transpacific relationship now but it didnt start that way.

I would not do it. LDRs don't work for me. If she's more than 6 blocks away, it's not going to work.

As Mysty mentioned, this did start off as a slightly whimsical thread as I wouldn’t consider having a transatlantic relationship – unsure what I would do if I was in a relationship that became transatlantic…something else I hadn’t considered. I guess, I would cross that bridge if it happened.

Nearly everyone that has posted on this thread, ruled out transatlantic relationships preferring to find someone ‘closer to home’ or at least in the same country.

Although not desperate to be in a relationship, the thought of being on my own for the rest of my days is not something at 42, I am willing to consider just yet. I just know that trying to find someone in the same city has been like finding a needle in a haystack. Loads seem to be up for casual sex, but very few want a LTR, something deep and more meaningful…I haven't thought about looking outside of London in order to find what I’m looking for but it's something I may have to consider..