I can only speak for myself but I imagine those women you speak of probably realize you want different things and move on. Who wants to argue about that? Why would you continue to ask to exchange numbers if that has been your experience? Asking for numbers is not the only way to show someone you're interested in them.

I don't like to exchange numbers right away. Why not take advantage of the dating site email? That's what it's there for, is it not? I never exchange numbers when I am first getting to know the person, even face to face. I don't let the online getting to know period linger out and usually meet right away or stop all together but I never ever ever exchange numbers.

So... I would have to say, I'm not guilty at all.

You might want to rephrase your topic to the singular form because it sounds like you are looking for girlS to date, which many men do want and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

So instead of girls use "a girl".

Whoa. What happened here while I was in class? As I’m reading everyones comments I realize that many of us are saying the same thing but from a different angle.

singmesweet, sweetestgirl11, and others, you really do get it what it feels like to be “wanted” as an older or younger woman/man. No, it’s not flattering when someone likes you because you’re from Europe, or because you’re a brunette, or because you have pretty feet, or because you’re “older”. That’s one point.

Second point: Krupa, you are one of a few rare couples and an inspiration to many. I really do believe that you guys love each other in essence beyond an age preference. I don’t see anyone disagreeing with you or condemning age difference. It’s just that we are all so different with such various experiences and while we stay open minded we are still affected by our experiences (which may be very different from yours), knowing that exceptions do exist.

miko1960 here is your sandwhich. Hope it's not too late.

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Thank you. I don't act my age either. Authenticity is very important. More than age. So the point to it all is not someone younger is interested in me but what his agenda is, what his intention is... reason for the attraction, you know what I mean?

I am having fun reading everybody’s responses.

I just want to say that there are older women out there who may be happy with younger men (including myself) but don't fit the cougar description. I'm okay with up to 8 years younger than me (give or take). However, I am not very motherly and would not necessarily fit the confident, knows what she wants, label.

IF I ever dated a younger man, it would have to be because he is in to me for who I am, not an age related fetish. With this said, I declare myself non-cougar. Never was, never will be, even though I will always attract men who are few years younger and will be attracted to them.

Just an update:
This 28 year old guy was writing me long letters before given me a chance to respond to his first letter. He was treating me like I was some type of a Goddess and ending his letters saying “you’re in my thoughts.” Made me feel uncomfortable because it sounded very unreal. Plus there is no professor teaching what he said he was teaching at CSULA.

Liars get their pants on fires.

I must have missed these responses.

He is on another site, not here. I already wrote him that I don't believe a word he wrote me. It was not real. I could tell. I hope he comes across it. I don't give a phuck.

How many girls did you have in mind?

I don't know, it sounds to me like you're looking for a lady so you can get a green card.

I'm actually in that situation. I told my friend I would give her my dream journal when I die. She stopped talking to me (which is not the first time) and I no longer want the back & forth and have let her go.

So my answer is NO. I have no reason to believe she wants to have anything to do with me. The deal (promise) is off when someone stops communication.

"It's a good way to weed out the people." Very true and that's why I'm not eager to let people know exactly what I like or dislike in case he wants to pretend to be someone else to impress me or something.

That's very good. You're profile pic is a mystery though.

If you’re relocating from Nigeria to Canada don’t you need a visa or a green card or something like that? What if your other half lives in Benin?

not a good sign.

pain is part of life and growth just as is happiness. is it not what makes us alive? i know it sucks sometimes when you're going through it.
would you like to share what happened?

Yes, I think it’s important to look at profiles before asking questions. If I’m really interested in him I don’t want to look like a fool. If I’m not interested I won’t read their profile or ask them questions.

If his picture speaks to me, I look at his profile but I might not finish reading it when:

1) people make references to sex (example: enjoy sex, must have sex etc.)
2) references to how often he goes to the gym (why do i need to know that?)
3) has other photos where he shows off his torso or pics with other women he dates
4) says things like “hello ladies” or “looking for fun”

Hi,
there is a lot I like about your profile but I don’t like the tone. It sounds a little demanding. When I read a profile I want to feel good. This doesn’t make me feel good. When you start with a long list of requirements it’s a turn off. Even if I fit the description I would never respond to it for these reason.

Contact me if you are this and that section can be summarized in to something like, “Looking for an independent down to earth woman” or something in those lines. The rest is great.

Also, I don't like to hear or talk about sex until I get to know the person. I hope this helps.

That is so sweet.