You asked and here's my opinion for what it's worth. You typically don't know the details until time passes by. No, neither should require changes but to make a relationship work, both should be willing to make accomodations, adjustments, and meet in the middle? If the guy had some kind of list easily read at first meeting regarding all of the ins and outs, what fun would that be? Plus I find that changes come about through experience and finding out something new about yourself by someone new enlightening the mind. AND there you have it....from li'l old me.