I think what makes them hard are the physical illusions and the cultural emphasis on physical attraction.


people are so eager to hook up because of an initial(physical) chemistry, that they overlook all the truly important stuff that make a relationship work.

things like

actually enjoying each others company outside the bedroom(this doesnt mean just enjoying looking at someone,,lol)


genuinely being able to make each other smile and laugh(not the smiling and laughing we do to be polite)


being able to communicate and share feelings beyond being horny or having a good time

having compatible priorities and levels of responsibility


emotional availability(women especially try to hard to MEND males who arent able to show emotion)

comfort and trust levels(if you have to be a 'secret' its probably not relationship material)

mutual supportiveness (in other words,low levels of criticism, martyrism, defensiveness, and procrastination)

mutual reliability and dependability

and common relationship goals and values

yeah you really dont know your wife at the moment. and marriage in the country as law is easy to withdraw. i grew up in a country where divorce is really not accepted. i came from a broken family. my mom and father separate when i was second yr hs. so as a third party i was hurt. this my life is very confidential.

communicate with your partner and dont give up on marriage. if you settle on marriage you have to accept your partner on what she was. thats why you had your marriage with her. you love her inside and out. now do you your child to suffer just because you dont like her now. whoaaa. just think of all your sacrifices that you made since you have started. do you want to start another more again? is your decision? woman sumtyms is nagger and materialistic but they are like that bcoz of also the family and children as you can see. we live in the world of money. for me being simple is enough. have a job, family, friend, house to live in, being healthy and enjoy life is enough