Hate it when I hear, "We love each other but we're not "in love" anymore! Really? No relationship is gonna feel hot and heavy like it did when you first met. Marriage is work! It's so easy to have an affair because someone else looks at you with googly eyes and your wife no longer does. Give me a break. What have YOU done to make her feel sexy and special? When's the last time you surprised her with a baby sitter and stole her away for a romantic weekend? Unfortunately, so many women "loose" themselves and who they are as they engage all their energy in raising their children. I am sure your wife would love to feel special again. The fact that you are on this site, tells me she probably doesn't. If you truly care about your marriage, get off this site and use your energies to woo your wife back. She is STILL the person you fell madly in love with so many years ago. You just need to reintroduce yourself.