only real way to know is to ask her out, unless of course you have no interest in her. could be fun. if it turns out all she wants to do is go 20 toes, move on you deserve better.

half my age? no, just no. girls that young are young enough to be my daughter. girls that young still don't really have it all together, maturity wise. especially w/ this site (worse on others, better on some) the vast majority are either fake, or employed to sell sex to me and every other guy out there. the population isn't so small as to need me to breed with every girl I meet... especially when there are those whose school of thought is we need to rid the world of population to "sustainable" [controllable] levels.

the whole thing has become such a mess, and we all bought into it to some degree or another.

someone meek and mild mannered is seen as a loser, when in reality they might actually have it together more than anyone else. the world we live in has defined it as such, and thus it must be, forget reality. that said, there is a reason stereotypes exist, and many more reasons to ignore them, if you're smart about it.

now it seems one of the tricks us guys need to learn is how to balance that we're nice respectable guys, who want to treat a lady with the honor, respect, and dignity they deserve and are worth checking out, because we can have fun while doing so... instead of the bad-boys that wind up hurting them, putting another notch against the Divorced marker and/or the emotionally damaged marker.

my idea of fun doesn't include the urge to jump into bed with someone, at least not until what is supposed to be the highest level of commitment: marriage. yes, having sex is fun, but it isn't strong enough to build a relationship on and have it last.

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here here! I don't want to waste the words, even if for so many they mean so little.

I can't say that I can give such a testimonial from any website, at least at this time. it's sad we have to muddle through all these fakes and scammers to find someone real, and then find someone who is interested enough to reply back instead of leaving us hanging (are they busy, not sure so want to take some extra time, or just not into you, etc.)

like I said, wish I could give you a positive testimonial on what is asked for. it's been over 17 years since I was last single (and very different circumstances) and I'm still working to get a complete handle on modern on-line connections.

I say it all the time to family and extended family.

to someone else, (love interest, spouse, etc,) those exact words haven't been spoken since my wife died.

I try not to use those exact words unless I'm sure. I may have come close once since, maybe using the phrase "my love" (don't remember for certain now) but then the red flags became noticeable and larger, so I ended it.

I can safely say, if I can see your ribs, you're too thin for me. there is also the other extreme too, I'll also pass on it. sorry... This doesn't mean bbw itself is necessarily out.

more important, to me though, is the inner beauty. we've all seen the drop-dead model types out there, and then experienced or learned that they were ugly on the inside: cruel, a user of people, above everyone else, shallow. definitely not what I want. I want someone who can be themselves, able to show the real (in my case) her... to be that comfortable. I'm not Daddy Warbucks, so it helps if she isn't afraid to get her hands dirty once in a while assisting me or on her own projects.

I could probably come up with a list, but those can be a bit daunting, even if knowing that it isn't necessary to match the list 100%.

love at first sight? yes and no. it really depends on the people involved.

both can fall in love at first sight and it last a lifetime.

one can and the other grows into that love and it can last a lifetime.

both can grow in love and last a lifetime.

and then... the opposite can be reality too: hatred, homicide, part ways....

it boils down to the individual(s).

Yeah, I'm on one christian dating site that seems to be fairly active. Most of the others seem to have just a way too small user base to be effective, at least the free ones. I do know of one individual who seems to have also migrated over to a non-christian site though. I guess the user base is still too small in some ways.

I also believe, that it's possible to find that one who is right for you almost anywhere. (I've experienced worse sites with the same issues as here, multiplied as if nobody was watching the shop.)

diserli_gears:

I'll work on the photos. I've edited the about section. I think I got enough to pique interest, and hopefully make the viewer feel more drawn in.

Let me know if I'm still missing the mark. (Female input may be more telling though.)

Yeah, I know: blocking seems to almost be the only option as reporting just seems to attract even more. It is a nuisance, but its the price you pay.

Thanks for the feedback.


Poetrywriter:

Advice taken. It almost feels like a betrayal for what I would hope ultimately for, but I understand what you're saying.

Thank you for the input.

I think many have noticed that in some ways, the religion option in our profiles is a little thin on options.

I know some go a step further than their selection and mention God or Jesus, sometimes just church is mentioned, in the profile or as an interest, but not everybody does. Now, If I may, I'd like to ask everyone, especially the ladies, what you chose to answer this with, and why. I think it can help us all out in either deciding on something that might be a better answer, or understanding a rule of thumb if you will.


Since I brought it up, I'll go first:

I chose Christian-Other, as I'm more non-denominational/interdenominational when it comes to beliefs. I didn't think any of the others really fit, especially since there is no protestant option.

EDIT: Sorry, the options here are better than some of the other sites, where what I said applies.

Protestant is an actual option here, and I did choose it as it is pretty much all-encompassing for Christianity outside of Catholicism.

Okay people, especially the ladies.

I need to see what I can do to my profile as I'm still falling flat on my face. I only seem to get the undesirable low-life porn and scammers trying to make me a mark. I need to know how to shrink this thing down even more, yet give enough info to actually get someone to do more than either look, and not bother to say: "sorry not interested" which should be a common courtesy, but extremely rarely is. or "Hey, I got to actually check this guy out and find out more about him!"

I guess I still need to find a good photo op to get a large enough smile that isn't hidden as well...


Anyway, let me have it, the bad, and the worse... but if there is anything to be saving, that too.

Oh... the silence is painful.... you really don't know if its "she's not that into you," been busy and haven't noticed,"already got someone" (Yeah, some keep their profiles around and active after. just don't know if its a fall-back, or just doesn't know how to)... or if they've fallen off the face of the earth as far as the dating site goes. Yeah, I know... I can fork out money and probably find some of that out... but should I really have to?


Anyway, enough of my frustration, please critique it again and have a great day.

Good question. Sometimes it seems impossible to block someone. I want to know too.

I think the outcry of the original and this cover here is still alive.

https://youtu.be/Te-jTA8g8Ys

btw: no tats, just a love of good metal.

Hey there lovely ladies. I'm relatively new in town here. LOL. Only been here a week, if that still counts as relatively new.


I'd like to find a woman, who wants to be the real her and knows some things are best saved for marriage. Someone I can experience their inner beauty as much as her outward appearance, maybe even moreso. Ultimately I'd love to marry this lady. BTW, I'm not afraid to wind up just as friends though, as everyone needs friends... after all no man or woman is an island.


Here's a few things not in my profile. When the relationship gets serious, I become a one woman guy. If you're not her, I won't want more than just a friendship at most while it lasts. I'm a bit cautious mind you, too many fakes and scammers forcing me to be so, and making it harder on you. If you don't have a pic attached to your profile, you've made your task of me noticing you even harder, sorry. Earn my trust as I earn yours and the road inward toward my heart will be easier and we can talk and explore what kind of future we may have.


Woman of my dreams, my partner in life for life. I know you're out there. Help me find you.

I think I added one, but I'll certainly add more. thank you for that advice.

Thank you for that info. that photo is removed, and my profile is updated. I'll be working on the photo ideas as well. Feel free to let me know any other weaknesses in it (or ones that I missed.)

I've toned down the references to God and got rid of the list format and dropped what could maybe be seen as redundant. I've reorganized pieces too, hopefully for the better.



As to the reference that I may be better suited for using a Christian dating website, there may be some truth in that, but I find that sometimes the one your looking for isn't all cooped up in some walled garden.

Again, I thank everyone for their input.

Thank you for your feedback.

I understand what you're saying. I'm not a religious nutjob, nor am I after converting anyone here with my profile. I'll have to restructure it later, after work though to correct and tone it down in that respect.

I think I'm a bit blind as to which photo you are referencing as intimidating. It isn't a look I want, nor does it really fit who I am. I don't want to be intimidating here.

Thank you for the feedback.

The question you didn't like was a reference to the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy. The question could be answered in reference to that, or in a more religious way too. On your recommendation though, I shall get rid of it after I'm off work as I don't want to fluster someone over something not so common knowledge. ️

From images to interests and about me. Review and critique please ladies.

There is some stuff I am serious about what I'm looking for, but there may be better ways of saying it that won't make it a brick wall with a sign on it that says "NO TRESPASSING." (I'm not the type for games, fwb, hook-ups, that kind of thing.) I know not everyone's going to like what I'd like, but as I stated, there may be better ways of saying it.

Thank you in advance.