Topic: Ladies. please, help me sell myself better
QuintupleB's photo
Wed 05/09/18 11:33 PM
From images to interests and about me. Review and critique please ladies.

There is some stuff I am serious about what I'm looking for, but there may be better ways of saying it that won't make it a brick wall with a sign on it that says "NO TRESPASSING." (I'm not the type for games, fwb, hook-ups, that kind of thing.) I know not everyone's going to like what I'd like, but as I stated, there may be better ways of saying it.

Thank you in advance.

Earthgirl83's photo
Thu 05/10/18 01:51 AM
Edited by Earthgirl83 on Thu 05/10/18 01:52 AM
"Want a walk to remember?" - I think is a real good one!

I like how you wrote your profile, sir, as it shows you are intentional and that you really thought about what you wrote.

For me, this part feels intimidating though, "Know the answer to Life, the Universe, and Everything?" but that's just me.

Seeing a list can sometimes make one feel hesitant even if they think they tick many of the boxes... but you'll attract the ones who are ok with it. Like you said, "the right person for me knows and understands that." I like the ones that show what kind of marriage you'd like to have.





Fervid_heart's photo
Thu 05/10/18 05:19 AM
Your multiple references to God is out putting, in my opinion. It sounds more like a "I hope this is what you want to see" and less like this is who I am. I'm not saying your religious values are a bad thing, just that you sound a bit lile the people who go door to door to witness.

Seperate your paragraphs. Make it one about you and a couple space between that before one about what you seek. Having preferences isnt a bad thing so dont worry about that.

Only one if your photos looks intimidating. The rest are pretty goid as they arent too close, nor too far. Add in a couple doing the things tou like to do ... maybe not watching a movie.

All in all you, have all the parts needed ... your personal likes, and what you desire in a partner. Though if you feel the need to say something about "checking off boxes" that is your subconscious telling you that your mind doesn't like the way it reads.

QuintupleB's photo
Thu 05/10/18 10:55 AM
Thank you for the feedback.

The question you didn't like was a reference to the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy. The question could be answered in reference to that, or in a more religious way too. On your recommendation though, I shall get rid of it after I'm off work as I don't want to fluster someone over something not so common knowledge. :slight_smile:

QuintupleB's photo
Thu 05/10/18 11:03 AM
Your multiple references to God is out putting, in my opinion. It sounds more like a "I hope this is what you want to see" and less like this is who I am. I'm not saying your religious values are a bad thing, just that you sound a bit lile the people who go door to door to witness.

Seperate your paragraphs. Make it one about you and a couple space between that before one about what you seek. Having preferences isnt a bad thing so dont worry about that.

Only one if your photos looks intimidating. The rest are pretty goid as they arent too close, nor too far. Add in a couple doing the things tou like to do ... maybe not watching a movie.

All in all you, have all the parts needed ... your personal likes, and what you desire in a partner. Though if you feel the need to say something about "checking off boxes" that is your subconscious telling you that your mind doesn't like the way it reads.


Thank you for your feedback.

I understand what you're saying. I'm not a religious nutjob, nor am I after converting anyone here with my profile. I'll have to restructure it later, after work though to correct and tone it down in that respect.

I think I'm a bit blind as to which photo you are referencing as intimidating. It isn't a look I want, nor does it really fit who I am. I don't want to be intimidating here.

no photo
Thu 05/10/18 11:56 AM
Well, I'm not a woman but there appears to be too much God.. sprinkled thru out your message.

I think some would find that a bit... odd.

but that's just my opinion


Fervid_heart's photo
Thu 05/10/18 01:01 PM

Your multiple references to God is out putting, in my opinion. It sounds more like a "I hope this is what you want to see" and less like this is who I am. I'm not saying your religious values are a bad thing, just that you sound a bit lile the people who go door to door to witness.

Seperate your paragraphs. Make it one about you and a couple space between that before one about what you seek. Having preferences isnt a bad thing so dont worry about that.

Only one if your photos looks intimidating. The rest are pretty goid as they arent too close, nor too far. Add in a couple doing the things tou like to do ... maybe not watching a movie.

All in all you, have all the parts needed ... your personal likes, and what you desire in a partner. Though if you feel the need to say something about "checking off boxes" that is your subconscious telling you that your mind doesn't like the way it reads.


Thank you for your feedback.

I understand what you're saying. I'm not a religious nutjob, nor am I after converting anyone here with my profile. I'll have to restructure it later, after work though to correct and tone it down in that respect.

I think I'm a bit blind as to which photo you are referencing as intimidating. It isn't a look I want, nor does it really fit who I am. I don't want to be intimidating here.
the photo I was mentioning is the second one where you are looking down on the camera.

QuintupleB's photo
Thu 05/10/18 04:58 PM
Thank you for that info. that photo is removed, and my profile is updated. I'll be working on the photo ideas as well. Feel free to let me know any other weaknesses in it (or ones that I missed.)

I've toned down the references to God and got rid of the list format and dropped what could maybe be seen as redundant. I've reorganized pieces too, hopefully for the better.



As to the reference that I may be better suited for using a Christian dating website, there may be some truth in that, but I find that sometimes the one your looking for isn't all cooped up in some walled garden.

Again, I thank everyone for their input.

Poetrywriter's photo
Thu 05/10/18 05:44 PM
Your write up is a bit lengthy but overall it is good. A photo of you smiling would be a plus.

QuintupleB's photo
Fri 05/11/18 09:45 AM
I think I added one, but I'll certainly add more. thank you for that advice.

QuintupleB's photo
Thu 06/28/18 05:33 PM
Edited by QuintupleB on Thu 06/28/18 05:39 PM
Okay people, especially the ladies.

I need to see what I can do to my profile as I'm still falling flat on my face. I only seem to get the undesirable low-life porn and scammers trying to make me a mark. I need to know how to shrink this thing down even more, yet give enough info to actually get someone to do more than either look, and not bother to say: "sorry not interested" which should be a common courtesy, but extremely rarely is. or "Hey, I got to actually check this guy out and find out more about him!"

I guess I still need to find a good photo op to get a large enough smile that isn't hidden as well...


Anyway, let me have it, the bad, and the worse... but if there is anything to be saving, that too.

Oh... the silence is painful.... you really don't know if its "she's not that into you," been busy and haven't noticed,"already got someone" (Yeah, some keep their profiles around and active after. just don't know if its a fall-back, or just doesn't know how to)... or if they've fallen off the face of the earth as far as the dating site goes. Yeah, I know... I can fork out money and probably find some of that out... but should I really have to?


Anyway, enough of my frustration, please critique it again and have a great day.

Poetrywriter's photo
Thu 06/28/18 05:55 PM
Your profile looks good to me, but even if everyone says the same thing that is not a guarantee that your inbox will be flooded with promising messages. Only thing that I noticed that may scare the ladies off, not all, but some is that you are looking for marriage. Not every lady is looking for that. Maybe you could just put looking for friends and let things happen naturally. After all, you have to be friends first. Good luck to you.

no photo
Thu 06/28/18 05:58 PM
Im not a lady obviously.

Here is the skinny.

you need quality pics

pics attract , any woman will tell you .

your profile is too detailed and plus most women will not read all that.

you need to sell yourself in 30 seconds, telling your life story isnt a good thing.

just a little bit about , you what you are looking for, a taste of humour, maybe a story or two etc

But it starts with the pics man.

You need better pics.

by the way every man gets those idiots spammers and scammer messages we just block them.


QuintupleB's photo
Thu 06/28/18 07:03 PM
diserli_gears:

I'll work on the photos. I've edited the about section. I think I got enough to pique interest, and hopefully make the viewer feel more drawn in.

Let me know if I'm still missing the mark. (Female input may be more telling though.)

Yeah, I know: blocking seems to almost be the only option as reporting just seems to attract even more. It is a nuisance, but its the price you pay.

Thanks for the feedback.


Poetrywriter:

Advice taken. It almost feels like a betrayal for what I would hope ultimately for, but I understand what you're saying.

Thank you for the input.

no photo
Thu 06/28/18 07:10 PM
And I was going to say , have you considered trying a christian dating site?

The women on here which I cannot name because its considered a violation of the rules

there are 5 wise women I hope sees your thread and they can and will give you their opinion and advice which will basically be some of the things Ive mentioned .


QuintupleB's photo
Thu 06/28/18 07:28 PM
Edited by QuintupleB on Thu 06/28/18 07:29 PM
Yeah, I'm on one christian dating site that seems to be fairly active. Most of the others seem to have just a way too small user base to be effective, at least the free ones. I do know of one individual who seems to have also migrated over to a non-christian site though. I guess the user base is still too small in some ways.

I also believe, that it's possible to find that one who is right for you almost anywhere. (I've experienced worse sites with the same issues as here, multiplied as if nobody was watching the shop.)