You are right, some would call it a rut, others call it a lack of self worth. It happens to many in failed relationships. Not knowing how to re-integrate into the dating pool, how to readjust to the changed world. These uncertainties sometimes manifest themselves as loss of self worth and self degradation.

Failed relationships often help the broken hearted to be a better future lover. The down side is when one feels unworthy of anyone after the relationship has ended. Or worse yet no one wants the discarded man.

Yes, maybe that is my problem also. I live in a remote area, from the inner workings of a city. A traffic jam is 2 cars stopped and occupants shooting the breeze. I have my wild turkeys, deer, occasional elk, fox, coyotes.

do you ever sleep

Not very often

Ok I look like I'm 30 but really 50, that doesn't make me old, just a whole lot better.

I think it is because;
1. I don't text (I live in a remote area)
2. I don't drink
3. I don't use recreational pharmaceuticals

Good advice for younger folks, so what about us over 50 men?

I am a guy (just not a typical guy), so here is what I have observed. Many guys are more interested in watching the game, partying, hanging with their buds, or having multiple women to impress their buds (bragging rights), or putting the woman on a pedestal (groveling at her feet all the time).

Very well said. Sometimes when you are young some might smother the other. Sometimes they don't pay attention, try to be in between, give and take.

Sounds like he is a classic control freak and a butt head to boot. You are much too pretty to for a slime job like him.

I agree, its one thing to be long distance acquaintances but to foster feelings, well, how can one have feelings for someone who is not tangible? BTW, I do not text, rarely use a cell phone. I like to see the eyes, the window.

My thought is that texting is very impersonal. Someone who ends a relationship with a text, dear john letter or phone call is just not honest. Hey I've been separated well over a year, still won't go out and find a new life with another woman, my "wife" has been making a new life since she left, in fact she is tonight. It will continue to hurt me until we are final.

Thanks for the kind words of support, you have a wisdom of relationships.

I agree. Then the difficult task. Once people get to know me, they think "hey. you're not bad"

Absolutely, I think an adult level relationship should be first and foremost in any relationship.

Thanks, I think that if I had a physical relationship with a woman that I would be cheating, even though we live separately many miles apart. Doesn't matter though, I can't even find a woman who wants to be a friend.

Honest monogamous relationship (one woman and expect to be her only man). share the relationship 50/50.

I don't know the answer. My wife moved out quite sometime ago, she has started a new life, we are not divorced. I have yet to date, what do I do? And am I taken because I'm still married?

Well above average intelligence and medium looks(for me too skinny is a turn off overweight but cute face is not). I use whats called the "She's High Maintenance" method. I tend to avoid women who give the air of high maintenance. Likewise women avoid me because I don't feel the need to keep with current fashion, I always wear a hat, sometimes go unshaved, wear jeans and a pull over. Sex for the most part is always awkward between a man and a woman the first time. Until you understand what "works" for your partner you have a learning curve. So what I'm saying is great sex can be achieved with the right questions.