Yeah and apperantly you don't know me very well.......

I never get a hangover...........

Ah - but by now you might well have a hangover - at which point you'd probably wish you hadn't been ...

wish i was drunk ...

who ever said god is a guy

This online dating thing is just not seeming to work. I've been at this for about 4 months now, and I've been on a plethora of dating sites. I met a guy here on mingle2 when I first joined and the first date was great, and I really liked him. The feeling even seemed mutual, but I never heard from him after the date. Since then I've had two guys stand me up, and no good luck with any of this. Any suggestions? I know I'm young, but I've got so much pressure from my family to date since I've never had a serious long term relationship.

First, things are not like this today. People have come a long way. But, we evolved some 100,000 years ago and people back then were exactly the same as we are today. They just didn't have all this education and technology at their fingertips. But, we evolved to live in that environment of 100,000 years ago and really haven't changed much sense. What worked well back then often gets in our way today.

Both men and women evolved to cheat a little. We know this because of several features we have in common with more promiscuous species. It has to do with insuring the survival of offspring and acquiring the best genes in a mate.

Men cheat because by having sex with a number of different partners he can increase his number of offspring and therefore spread his genes farther and wider into the future. He doesn't think about this of course, it's just his evolutionary programming. So, no matter how good his woman's genes are, he will still feel a need to cheat. That doesn't mean he has no choice about his actions though.

For women it's different. No matter how many partners a woman has, she cannot increase the number of her offspring. So, she looks for quality. Maybe she's not of the best genes herself (in other words, she's not a 10), so she had to settle for a second rate male. But, her genes are good enough to attract a first rate male for a short romp. If she does conceive, she doesn't have to tell her second rate husband anything. She can cuckold him and he may think the child is his and bring it food and other resources.

A woman may also choose a man with vast resources, but then cheat with a good looking man, or an artistic man. Then her pretty, artistic offspring can enjoy the vast resources of her wealthy man.

Many people don't like these ideas, but they are well established notions in evolutionary psychology. If you'd like to learn more, a very good place to start is a book called "The Red Queen" by Matt Ridly.
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Whew - real glad you said all that and not me. Actually having read a fair old amount of the anthropological evolutionary psychology stuff myself I concur. One of my most frequently deployed arguments is that in many areas of human interaction our base instincts are dictated by genetic programming to some extent. Consequently, if we are to make informed choices about our actions, then it is useful to appreciate where some of these feelings come from. Another good example is racism: (one of my MAIN pet hates amongst the plethora of negative human tendencies) Our hunter gatherer ancestors lived in a world in which a particular area of land could only support a finite number of people. Consequently some degree of hostility towards strangers was advantageous as it ensured that a suitable distance was maintained between tribal groups - whilst at the same time, this was tempered somewhat by the contradictory imperative to widen the tribal gene pool. For similar reasons, an individual perceived to be 'different' (ie - socially awkward, weak, disabled) within a tribe might also find his or herself subjected to hostility: (one of the roots of bullying?)

Interesting stuff indeed - but many people in our modern world have lost touch with the inner being. We can and really should understand these inner motivating factors - because then we can make rational informed choices about how we act and by so doing - as a race of beings, we can finally begin to grow up.

Such a sweetheart..
it's a curable STD though which he contracted from her.

My poor friend, she's more than most likely overwhelmed with guilt. her boyfriend's not talking to her still and she's breaking down.

And to think, she's a victim as well of the situation. She's hurt both for herself and her bf

Monty Python was great.......loved Kids in the Hall too........I'm a squishing your head LMAO.....

I would loose respect for them, as well as be angry at myself. loose repect for them becuase they do not have good judgement as well as poor decision making skills, and angry at myself for showing the same lack of judgement and poor decision making skills!

All in all, it would suck, and likely be a negative situation. I am unsure if it would be a relationship killer for me, I guess it would depend upon the specific STD (i.e. if it's cureable or not, or deadly or not)...

*sigh*

$.02

Sadly, noone is safe to travel the world because there are bad people in all places in the world, US and Britain are no exceptions.

As to Bush and Blair, they are criminals.

They promoted and coerced an illegal "military action" which destroyed a lot of Iraq and killed 100,000s of innocent people on a totally false premise of WMD that did not exist. People falsely justify this military action on the premise that Saddam was a bad man but if that is the case there are lots of bad men in this world who we are not killing, why not?

So you are right in their criminality. And Americans just bought into the ******** lock stock and barrel.

As to the dangerousness of religion. Any religion that says that they are the righteous ones and all others are not is a dangerous religion.

OK - men who do not understand sex is a huge peeve

as in that there is soooooo much more than the physical -so much more and the more that he embraces that the better the physical becomes

if that makes sense u get a cupcake

Hey All,

I am new to this site. Recently single mother of 2 boys, looking to move on, but do things right this time.

I hope I can find whom I am looking for here.