What are some of the things that scare you off when you meet new people? If a man says "hi sexy" to me when we barely know each other this turns me off. How about you?

..when a man says "hi sexy" to me it turns me off too...

I had a guy on the first date keeping saying "when are we going to get this romantic relationship started?". He kept asking me to go for that weekend to an island getaway.....I thought desperate.

When they don't have a picture , you do and they want to meet you (no clue what they look like).

When they have my life planned out within the first couple of weeks of meeting them... Shshsh went out with one guy and he already had it planned out for me to sell my house and move 2 hours away all by the 4th date..... Needless to say he did not get the 5th date.... Hell I don't even know what I'm going to do next week at times don't plan my life out for me....

Any number of things can scare me off, or rather I should say put me off...

Having a penchant for drama, (life is NOT a movie)

stating that they're excessively busy, (why bother then?)

having elaborate shopping lists, (get real!)

being needy, (sooo draining)

unrealistic expectations,( again, get real!)

being overly ridged and set in their ways,( big problem!)

poor self image or low self esteem, (seek counseling, not a relationship)

materialistic to a fault,( can you take it with you?)

unwillingness to compromise, (more common than you might think)

addiction, (no explanation required)

inability to see the big picture, ("there's more to heaven and earth")

skewed perceptions of what's important in life,(really now...How important is keeping up with the neighbors or your landscaping?)

major issues with their children or ex's,(big red flag)

Motorcycle mama's,(loud, proud & don't care who knows it)

never having a LTR,( unless you're under the age of 25 or so, where have you been?)

co-dependent tendencies,(been there and I aint goin back!)

overly religious or atheistic, ( moderation is a good thing, no?)

tendency to sweat the small stuff, ( Oh no! you say they stopped making your favorite hair coloring???)

overly independent, (sharing is a good thing)

conceitedness, ( I know you're gorgeous and a brainiac, but sheesh already...)

control freak,( I'll choose my own wardrobe, thank you very much)

intimacy issues, ( I'm sorry about your evil ex's but that wasn't me babe)
and on and on...

It would be easier to list what doesn't scare me off...

The discovery that they're a walking bottomless pit of emotional neediness ...

There are some people who expect us to step right into their exisitng life...Have you noticed this? They expect us to like and do what they like and do right off the bat...They have an assigned role for us to play and duties they expect us to perform and like...This gets spooky.

When they're going at lightening speed to have a relationship with you without knowing you from a "hole in the wall".

..............for someone to expect me to be perfect....

There are 'ladies' who mirror that behavior ... but my favorites are the ones who haven't - for whatever reason - planned for the time in their life called 'retirement' and are looking for someone to fund it for them now that it's here.

Before you say that doesn't happen, I'll just add that I ran into this in one instance. The statement was uttered that she was looking for someone who'd leave her with insurance or a heritable joint bank account at their death. Isn't that everyone's dream ... ? ... being the 'last-minute' financial statement in someone's life ... ?

Boy, does that make y' feel 'special' and 'wanted' or what ... ? It makes me want to consider which testing lab to send my coffee to before drinking it ...

You're just full of good questions GreenEyes...

I agree with Allen... there are alotta things that turn me off.
Traits that show excessive behaviour(s)
and lacking moderation seem to be
the key, for me.
Even just the tendency to be a "fan" of something
raises concern in me... fan=fanatic, I wanna
know how deep that goes... if it turns out to
be a "healthy" thing, nbd.

Still, what brings me back is
my belief that there's perfection
in imperfection (and no, I'm not into eastern philosopy).
God knows, that if this world were a perfect place... I'd be the one that messed it all up.

Gold digger and/or a Black Widow............

First meeting assumption of a relationship - what????? I just got a huge shock in a ltr. No interest in instant relationship.

I've been out of circulation for over 25 years so I'm not "hip" when it comes to dating lingo and rituals today...How many women like to hear a man say "hi sexy" to them right off the bat...before they even agree to go out on a date with the guy? Is this normal? Maybe I'm old-fashioned but this really turns me off.

Oh yeah....there are some doozies out there!

I guess it would depend on the woman, and if there is some interest in the man.......ahahaha!

It would be nice to receive a well thought-out email vs. "hi sexy".

Maybe I "think too much" and ask too many questions. This could be a drawback and negative in some people's eyes....I am not exactly a "Barbie Doll" who is "seen" but never "heard." This is why it seems funny when men say "hi sexy" to me right off the bat...without really knowing me very well....I'm not against "being sexy" but this comes later in the relationship to me. How do yoo feel about it?......Shut-down people probably run the other way when they see me coming...

Yeah, yeah... I've been accused of thinking too much.
Which of course made me stop and think about it, haha.
But I asked friends about it too... my conclusion is
that most people that say that,
are trying to justify their not thinking enough... so there
The point being, so what? It's just a personal style...
chevys and fords.

Sometimes it is necessary to shut people down
and run away...
but I do it less nowadays.
I just, be me.
So, if it's a turn-off to ya'
just let that ride... you don't have to
justify it to anyone. And if you care to...
let their statement pass w/o condemnation.
Mebbe they have other good qualities/aspects...
just a thought.