This online dating thing is just not seeming to work. I've been at this for about 4 months now, and I've been on a plethora of dating sites. I met a guy here on mingle2 when I first joined and the first date was great, and I really liked him. The feeling even seemed mutual, but I never heard from him after the date. Since then I've had two guys stand me up, and no good luck with any of this. Any suggestions? I know I'm young, but I've got so much pressure from my family to date since I've never had a serious long term relationship.

Is your family trying to marry you off?

Yes you are young, its time to date a variety of men, have some fun, see whats out there, whats works for you.
Finish school before any real serious relationship.

There's no rush for it:)
Let it go slow and love will come to you.
Everyone have someone for them in this world.
Wish you all the best.

I think speed dating would work for me if I had enough speed.

Give up? Hell no! This is like fishing. You don't throw the bait out there reel it in then go home. You start drinkin. You get snarls. You snag old tires. You hook a butt cheek with a treble hook. You keep casting till you are too drunk to fish. Then, when you are passed out and getting a blistering sunburn. The fish that you really want to make love too will bite your hook and practically catch its self.

Duh.

hi
yeah dont give up ive had little success too on other sites this place seems great make friends over time then see what happens
your a good looking woman dont forget that and hang in there

Oh girlie you got to get thicker skinned. After being widowed I was so sensitive. Didn't date for 3 years then started searching. Got my heart broke managed to forgive and go on. Still single but not settling he is out there.

thats the spirit carol fair play liking your style

Why didn't anyone tell me this sooner? I keep forgetting to take my treble hook with me on dates. No wonder I have been here 3 years.

Yeah it seems like my family is trying to marry me off... I live with my dad and his horrible wife who wants me out. My dad won't let her kick me out until I finish college or get married tho, so she's wanting me to get married. I'm not saying give up in general, I just mean online dating. Any guys here that are near my age seem like all they want is sex... not what I'm lookin for. Thanks for the input though, everyone.

and jdk3000, seems like you just really like dancing bananas... lol.

Simply Awesome!!

Oh yeah easy free sex, first thing you learn. It's not just your age I got married young, I look back and think I just wanted to get out of the house. It lasted 10 years a beautiful daughter. Still friends with my ex.Yeah married twice.

I really think that,if you want to get noticed here, you have to be in the forums. It's the best way for people to get to know you.

Of course, there are other factors, too -- like where you live and what you're looking for. But I really think you have to let yourself be known here before much of anything happens.

Don't quit now!!! 4 months are nothing when trying the online experience. Yes, you will encounter some people that may seem interested...then disappear. And truthfully, this is the wrong way to find someone in desperate measures to please your family concerning your dating life.

This site should be fun and relaxing. Pressure? There should be no pressure. It is not your mission. Finding the right person comes naturally (becoming friends, communication, having attraction towards each other, hang out, start dating, start having a growing relationship...). Something like that. I've never had a long term relationship before, so you are not alone.

I wish you all the best. Try to make friends here in the forums. I'm sure someone will pop up.

Relax, enjoy and have fun.....

I agree!

enjoy the forums too newby

You're giving up too soon. It took mye about two years to get the hang of it. Think of it as fishing and the messages you send are bait. If you're not getting nibbles, change your bait. Still not working? Try a different time of day, etc.

But, that doesn't mean you should stay home every night sending emails. Get out and have fun with your friends. This is only one more hook in the water. For good results you need lots of hooks working for you.

Best of luck.

4 months ain't nuthin Darlin'. I been doin this online 'datin' thing for 4 an a half yrs now. Have I given up an resigned myself to be an ole' lady with a housefull of cats?? NOPE !! Figure the right one will come along when he's ready or when I finally get one handcuffed right, whichever comes first. LOL

It's gonna happen when it's suppose to happen. In the meantime enjoy life, get ur education an tell the Dad's wife to take a walk off a very tall bridge. LOL