My daughter is 13 as well and on the verge of having her first bf. I took it in stride. I know the kid, and I know his parents. I also know that and when we do ever let them hang out together outside of school, they will NEVER be left alone. That's key! Parents do have controll, we just have to do it wisely. My daughter is not allowed to "go out with friends", unless it is a school activity and I know that parents I trust will be there. If she wants to have him over to the house to watch a movie, cool, but they stay in the living room. Bedrooms are a no no on every level.

I had my daughter when I was 19, and I am not niave in the slightest. There isn't a trick in the book that I don't know. I could be the mom who puts her foot down and say NO till 17 or 18, but that will make her rebellious and it will be a bigger fight. Teach them to respect themselves, and others, and how to be together properly.. and we stand a better chance of keeping our chillins from repeating the mistakes we made. And yes, I have been 100% upfront about with her about how she came about, my age, what led to it ect. ect. Kids don't like being lied to and will never trust if they find out a deep dark secret. I found out when I was in my 20's that the reason my mom married my dad was because they had slept together and they felt like they had to because of religious reasons. DUH WHAH? I don't let it rule my life or make me hate them, but I don't like alot of uppity talk from them because they lied to me for many years about their meeting and marriage (they got married a week after they met, and I always felt it was sooooooo romantic, what bullhockey).