Good responses from everybody...ahem...even the ones that would claw and dig in there heels so to say. And yep, a smart man would say, yes honey you look absolutely beautiful and I would not mean it in a partronizing way and still put up with dye smell. I've done it before, but now not so much. I've dated four different women over a cup of coffee that last two weeks, and three of the four are natually gray, makes me have hope after all. Winks ;)

One of the best movies I have seen is "Out of Africa", and I really enjoyed the scene when they are in a sitting room enjoying a fire and for entertainment, they share a story, each person to continue on the story adding in their own part, and the story is to go on and on, with each party continuing, listening, and taking their turn.

“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”
― Rosemarie Urquico

I guess it flew over your head ......lol

Share if you find a good one. Here is mine.

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley

Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn.

Gone with the wind.

Actually I am with you on talking face to face, public place at first to start such at a cafe. But alas, no takers yet in my local area. Yes voice intonations, body language tells a big part and reading people. I just said a very big word there, "reading". Everybody needs to learn this before their first meeting of a person. How they make eye contact, the position of their feet, how they tilt their head, do they cross their arms in front of them, etc, etc. I shouldn't have to say this, but you only get one chance to make a impression, do your best, take a shower before, fresh shave for you guys, be clean cut, fresh hair cut, do not over do the aftershave, wear a pressed collared shirt and pants, polish those shoes, etc. Same for ladies.

I do not know... if it is me or my offer to talk with anyone local in a public place to talk over a cup of coffee...but sheesh I would even pickup the bill...I am just looking for someone to talk with in person...seems like a dying breed of women around here lol

Okay I got really bored and made a "clean" you tube video to introduce myself. I would like to meet a charming lady that has the gift to gab over a cup of coffee someplace public and local around Joplin, MO.

Okay I got really bored and made a "clean" you tube video to introduce myself. I would like to meet a charming lady that has the gift to gab over a cup of coffee someplace public and local around Joplin, MO.

Any women out here in SW Missouri that like older gentlemen? Just checking, looking to meet and chat at a public place over coffee....

Druming fingers on the keyboard lol, still here.

Hello ladies anyone looking to share a cup of coffee around the Joplin area, are you charming and have the gift to gab? I live 18 miles east of Joplin...

Either one of these is tops on my list of singing artist:

Louis Armstrong,
Nat King Cole
Willie Nelson
Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwoʻole
Martina McBride

My taste are varied because my step father was a DJ and at one time president of Kenny Rogers production. Of course my opinion does not matter but music is like beauty, in this case ears of the beholder.

I would ask him to give me the power to heal as in with the comforter.
John 14:14
John 14:18

Then shield me from evil as in
Psalm 28:7

And my man, this is a whole new ball game since your where in the playing field I would say close to 30 years. First thing I would seek professional advice, quickly from a counselor like a Behavior Specialist cause you have a whole lot of catch up to do. Welcome to the 21st century.

Because it is one of the "most" abused platforms for meeting single people. You have to "build" trust, cross your t's and dot your i's. Trust is not a given anymore it has to be earned. We are here looking for a life partner, not scratching a itch and you will not find someone fast. It takes time to weed out players, cat fishers, and gold diggers. And you ask us to explain what love is? Really guy, your 56, a widower, with two children, are you asking "us" what love is, or do you not really know? I can tell you it's complex, love is a encampment of many things. And, that is all I am going to tell you.

Men cry when they have reached a emotional and stressful barrier. Your a 46 year old woman...nails your sandles to the floor and talks point blank with you and I won't put chocolate on it either. I have lived in your neck of the woods and I would rather have a iced cold bottle of San Miguel or Coke with a Tanduy ESQ Rum or a pitcher of MOJO but I am past that era of my life. Men that don't cry are hard liners or from countries like Japan where you would be lucky to get a tear because of their self discipline. So there are alot of reasons for and against. Men don't typically do so in every day life unless a emotional barrier has been breached, and heaven help you if they do. JMO V/r Frank

Ok, dont worry cause I don't walk sideways, yeah I'm a dude and just saw your entry on the community board and you wanted a rating. 3 out of 5 stars. You have some strikes against you, will be up front and honest with you, your still not divorced and yeah your a handsome man I will give you that. But "good" women won't go for a man still married ( not even talking about attorney fee's "you" need to pay still) and they won't go for a man freshly divorced because they would worry about you talking about your "X" instead of them. Make sure that is all cleared up in your head and with the court, know what I mean. But there is no limit on how much you can put in a profile, more is better, go ahead and look at mine for example. Max out your photos, 5 I believe, if they are aged photos to new photos that is better cause it shows congrewity with history if you catch my drift. You have what appears a beautiful and healthy daughter. Good luck on your journey man, as we say in the Nav smooth seas and a following wind. V/r Frank