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Lotsa good advice, Julie. But some shltty advice was slipped in. I like and respect you, that's why it pains me to have to point this out - but I think it's important to point this out... - While I agree it's "cool" for a woman to be a virgin I don't necessarily think they should try to stay virgins. They should be finding a husband and partner to do life with, make babies and stay immortal. I think that's really important to stress, which brings me to my second point - I don't think you should compromise virtues or values either... but I think they should be realistic. You were saying something about Mr. Perfect, when Mr. Perfect doesn't exist. Hell, Mr.Perfect for her, doesn't exist. Nobody is perfect, and if one thinks that they have no faults of their own, or that a relationship doesn't have it's trials - they are delusional - Last one! I don't think there should be a carte blanche on "act on feelings" There should be a lot of logic used when making decisions. Feelings change by the hour or even hormone level with women. Logic never changes. Even though you made some okay points on the part of the being a virgin even though it’s old fashioned so is the woman finding a husband part too. For me I live off the true love waits philosophy and will only give up my virginity to my husband . I’m not saying that all young women should do so it’s up to them to give their virginity to whoever they want but at the same time no one should put them down if they are one. True they’re is no such person a perfect one and we all take the best and worst of us in a relationship and work through them in time until we can hopefully overcome them and find real maturity in them. |
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"Pride" not a bad word.
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Your ancestry....Didn't earn it - what exactly did you do? Your children..... You think taking credit for someone else's accomplishments is a good thing? Marsellus Wallace said it best "F*** pride. Pride only hurts, it never helps." I find the most prideful people are the most narcissistic Pride has its good and bad sides to it. As long as you’re modest about it then it’s good but if you constantly brag about it then it’s bad. I see no reason to bring people down if they feel they posted something they’re proud about. If you’re not proud about anything well you’ve let yourself down but drag the rest of us down with you. |
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world is different now
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Sorry to say I don’t find having a third person with us on a date relaxing. With someone else watching and staring at you and listening in our conversation when such things should only be between us, I’ll pass. I don't think the chaperon will be in the midst of the date. Are they not somewhere off to the side at a table or walking close by? I would hope so. |
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"Pride" not a bad word.
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I take pride in my Ancestory, (English, Scottish on mom’s side and Dutch on dad’s side), my family and friends. I’m proud to be a woman and wouldn’t change it for the world
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Oh and another piece of advice it’s totally cool to be a virgin like me
.Through people like you, it makes all of us accept that everything can be made possible in life n we can still move on with courage 
Stay blessed and cool, as always Julie 🥰 Thank you AatHeera ! Another piece of advice to is life is unscripted and can be unpredictable so act on your feelings. Don’t believe everything you see on TV or in movies where everything is scripted and predictable. Tune out anything that is negative or a bad influence and tune into anything positive that keeps you upbeat and uplifted .
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Fighting you for your love
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Good luck
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world is different now
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Sorry to say I don’t find having a third person with us on a date relaxing. With someone else watching and staring at you and listening in our conversation when such things should only be between us, I’ll pass.
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Fighting you for your love
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Nice short write
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Oh and another piece of advice it’s totally cool to be a virgin like me
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Thank you all and add Laska Paul’s words too. Another thing to add is you have every right to say NO if something doesn’t feel right to you and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Find true positive role models to look up to and they can be anyone from friends to family to famous people. Find inspiration everywhere and if someone’s words inspire you write it down in a diary or notebook and note who said it so if you need inspiration you’ll have it on hand and bring it everywhere with you. Remember there’s only one you in this world and there’ll never be another like you so always love that about you.
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Julie ABush , Intelligent answer from you . I have a Question for you ? What advice would you give to all the young women's here on how to deal with the pressures they are facing today ? My advice would be don’t give up and don’t compromise your virtues and values. Set goals for yourself and achieve them. Have good friends around you and most importantly keep your family around you. Find joy in your faith and the world even when everything around you seems bad. If something depresses you step away from it and drown it out. Keep your heart and mind in check and don’t let them get off balanced. Find comfort in faith over emptiness. Always find love and hope in everyday things and let it take you from there .
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My doctor explained to me that as long as I don’t get hot flashes or the kind of sweat that interrupts my way of life then no need to worry but could take supplements if I wanted to and so on.
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Even if I die single I’ll rest in peace knowing I’ve touched other peoples lives in big and small ways and that’s all that matters and after all God has told us helping others can bring joy and peace in your life and it’s helped me overcome my emptiness
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Great poem and so true about DT ! When he’s turned American citizens against each other we have reached an all time low.
I agree with your outlook, Julie, thanks for sharing it. At least you’re one of the few who agree on the subject of DT and that makes me feel better . I did my civic duty as a citizen and voted (good luck K !).
I voted for Kamala Harris and Tim Walz, and I invite our fellow American Minglers to join us. Right on dude ! Even though I’m a Republican I refuse to vote for a man who’s full of lies and hate .
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How many local men proposed to you in the past? Do you find anything wrong in yourself/your family, that keeps potential men away from getting engaged to you?
I have a bad previous experience with local men, and in general, Arab men are bad with me in relationships... because I was exposed to psychological harm, bullying, and disappointment from them, and that is because of their superficial, closed mind... They only care about a woman’s outward appearance and forget the important things in a woman: her mind, her personality, her thinking, her morals. ................” When an Eastern man chooses a woman who is ideal in her beauty and marries her after the first month or two, he divorces her... Why?! ...Because he discovers that this woman is not suitable for him and is not fit to be a wife and mother to his children after he satisfied his sexual need with her... **** them....they are stupid and think like bastard teenagers.... 
I agree with you that men ,not all of them, only look on the outside of women and find us physically attractive when they forget we have a heart, mind and soul just like them. When I see a well body man yes I get attracted to him but I also want to know his heart, mind and soul to be even more attracted to him cause physical beauty can fade and so can the physical attraction but as long as the other three don’t fade I still find him attractive. I use to be like you in the crying part wondering if I’ll ever find my soulmate and was jealous of my married family and friends but it made me feel worse and so I stopped being that way and found joy and hope in everyday things and I’ve been continent ever since. Yes that special place in my heart feels empty but my faith overshadows it and it gives me comfort over emptiness. |
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To me both sexes have honesty issues. Like Laska Paul sad you have to be patient and rushing to find “Mr Perfect” isn’t a good thing. Hey I’m 52 and still single and cool with it but if the right man comes along great but I’m certainly not in a rush for him to come along. Patients is truly a top virtue and should be practiced every day. Be content in the everyday little things for now.
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Question, is back sweat considered a form of menopause night sweat? I ask this because that’s the first position I sleep in when I go to bed at night and when I wake up to make a bathroom run part of my upper back and shoulders and night gown are drenched in sweat.
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Buffy
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Just to be a little off subject but one of the facts that comes up when I watch my 80’s Music Choice Channel on the subject of VHS Rewind quote saying “In the original draft of Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back that Yoda was being considered named Buffy. Master Buffy, as if!”. I thought I’d share that fact.
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Very much clear, focus, and self motivated 2 succeed in my 2day! Always create a positive vibe around yourself and doors of blessings will open for you. Remember! Having a hateful heart will produce nothing but, negative darkness! So true . That “remember” part reminds me of someone running for President and he’s full of negative darkness. I believe I’ve seen a quote by Martin Luther King JR saying “Darkness can’t drive out darkness, only the light can do that”. We the few can only hope it will be so very soon.
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Great poem and so true about DT ! When he’s turned American citizens against each other we have reached an all time low.
I agree with your outlook, Julie, thanks for sharing it. At least you’re one of the few who agree on the subject of DT and that makes me feel better . I did my civic duty as a citizen and voted (good luck K !).
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