If you are seeking someone attractive who has done things right in life well,odds are most are already "taken" however, those currently available are just that more rare to find and sometimes timing is everything.

On a side note, you know the saying... you get what you pay for. Given this site is free perhaps those here invest in themselves or their future a bit less and they are seeing who will accept them without even putting in much effort.
They feel they had no one worth trying for for to long and now just want some company.
Maybe you could be the motivating factor, who knows, maybe they clean up well : )

Seems like you previously were just attracting the wrong men, the confident kind that easily get what they want at the time but have no patience or discipline to own up to responsibility.
The good shy guys rarely speak up so keep your initiative : )

Your match might just be at the next activity you have yet to sign up for or maybe you have another page to load in a different book so to speak.

You can't rush aging wine to meet it's perfection and who knows, maybe your ideal match is a bit younger : )