Since you didn't use the quote option, I don't know who this is addressed to.

If you're responding to my comment above, no, I'm not intimidated by her. (Historically, I'm the one who is always referred to as "intimidating" and "complicated," although anyone who knows me at all, knows better than that.)

My issue is that all of my prior gfs (with one exception) have tried to turn me into Ward Cleaver, and that just ain't gonna happen.

I have no problem with independent women. I have issues with independent (or other) women trying to change me.


sorry i didnt use the quote option, no i wasnt referring to you, I think you are great as u are and should always be yourself. What an attractive quality to have, being oneself. :)

there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?

funny, that's what I'm looking for but they don't exist. I love affection, that first kiss, that first time he looks right into my soul, so hard to find....I'm sure it's right here...just need a little help in finding it lol.

I have read today on a post that ppl who do not get enough attention on the site should post so here goes...

What do you want? Really...What will capture your attention? What are you looking for?

This is what I am looking for:

Looking for someone to make me laugh, (even though it is funny that you would think I'd give u my ph # without even a nice note)

Looking for someone who is a little older than me, (even though I keep getting nudges from men in their 20's)

Looking for someone who is not into material things, (I have enough of my own)

Looking for someone who is already a U.S. citizen, ( please stop giving me emails from India, Africa...)

Last but not least, I am a strong woman not afraid to let you know what I want and what I like. Some would say I should curb my forwardness however, how can we get what we want if we always keep the other guessing??? No head games. Life is all about the chuckles!

Have a great life. Mary

while it is true that I am impatient, and also true that I do not post, I've limited myself here. I've allowed no one to get to know me. So when I get frustrated that men are sending me friend requests, winks,nods & nudges, asking me for my cell # only to have relations on the computer, I find this post and realize that I need to change my approach....
Now I just need to work on this New York mentality of no patience...

to all that have replied: I think all of you have some valid points: the camel thing: a little over the top! and the funeral thing, way over the top! However, in my experience, men my age or younger, I am 45, are not in the same mental place as I am, therefore how can they be attentive to me when they usually cant concentrate on their own chi, they will never be able to work with mine. And I'm not looking for a senior citizen either. I'm just saying that sometimes age probably won't matter but with some guys, there are surely some exceptions....for the most part, older men have already gone thru their wild side so now they are ready to focus on someone else resulting in long romantic intimacy instead of selfish, pre-mature desires....I think a man who is 10 or 20 years older than me can be quite a catch. They are seasoned in life, love and yes desire. Can be very very hot! Just my opinion.

so funny I'm going thru a divorce as well, more like another planet for me!

Don't you just hate it when you finally click with someone, both have the same sense of humor, same priorities, and yes...the same passionate drives, (you know what I mean) and the person turns out to be half way across the country???? thank god for batteries lol!!!

dont take me to an AA meeting to support you on the first date and tell all your friends there that I'm your girl! Oh yeah! and don't tell me we dont have to go to dunkin doughnuts for coffee because the coffee is free at the meeting!

oh sweetie, do u realize that youre 21? I have shoes older than you, please dont be offended, but if you are already divorced at 21, then I would like to say, go and live! Have some fun! there are so many opportunities out there for a guy who is a gentleman, respectful, hot looking, smart, you have everything going for you. If a girl doesn't appreciate you, move on. I know it hurts, I've been nice for 28 years. I'm moving on. I am a great person who deserves a great person. That is what you should say to yourself. You are a catch. I sincerely wish you luck. Love Mary

me thinks i'll never look at another toaster pastry the same way again.....

welcome!

how old is he? out of the blue? I'm sorry for you and your brother and I will keep you in my prayers. Mary

I am sure i'm looking in the wrong state...I asked him what kind of music he likes, he put on the best of JZ, (sorry, but dont care enough to spell it right!) never listened to The Band, Toby Keith, the Stones, I felt like I was in a bad MTV video.....

I am so sorry too, he was so handsome, tan, built, unbelievable smile, and he didnt have 2 cents to his name without his 80 something year old mommy paying for it.....

FML is F__k my life! sorry for the profanity, seriously. There is a website dedicated completely to FML, quite funny. It's full of stories of unbelievable stories of things that happen on a daily that still make you shake your head.

No, he shouldnt have taken me to see his mother, and especially when he was going there to get a check from her for the cable company. I don't get how people don't understand that it's not a good thing to live off of your parents when you're in your 40's. FML!

I wish I had some now! But I'll eat my ice cream and dream.....

While beef stew sounds delish, it doesn't beat toaster pastries!

I had to go home and raid the fridge!

Now that I look upon this, I find humor in it, pathetic, but funny. BIG NEXT! LOL!

ok, i had to come on here & give an update on this magical date that I had today, that I took off from work for......

I took off and went to jersey to see this guy whom I had the most fun with at the museum of natural history, repeat right??? NOT! I'm all for giving 2nd chances but....he doesn't have a job, can't afford his own pack of cigs, goes to his 80 year old mom for a check to cover his internet bill of only $66 and brought me to his mother's house to get said check....when I said I was hungry and wanted to get something to eat, he pulled out toaster pastries!

Now, I don't need a fancy restaurant but bacon & eggs would've been nice.

And I have my limits on where to bring me on a date...certainly not an AA closed meeting where I have to leave because I'm not an alcoholic.

I ended up leaving, and just driving out to a farm house in the country and buying tulips all day.

FML