I have read today on a post that ppl who do not get enough attention on the site should post so here goes...

What do you want? Really...What will capture your attention? What are you looking for?

This is what I am looking for:

Looking for someone to make me laugh, (even though it is funny that you would think I'd give u my ph # without even a nice note)

Looking for someone who is a little older than me, (even though I keep getting nudges from men in their 20's)

Looking for someone who is not into material things, (I have enough of my own)

Looking for someone who is already a U.S. citizen, ( please stop giving me emails from India, Africa...)

Last but not least, I am a strong woman not afraid to let you know what I want and what I like. Some would say I should curb my forwardness however, how can we get what we want if we always keep the other guessing??? No head games. Life is all about the chuckles!

Have a great life. Mary

I want an independent woman who can take care of herself.

Brains and humour.

Not afraid to speak her mind to me, I will listen.

Enjoys doing things (amusement parks, concerts, zoos, museums, etc).

And lastly, must love affection and giving affection.

But they don't exist....

I forgot....But when I remember I will let you know

funny, that's what I'm looking for but they don't exist. I love affection, that first kiss, that first time he looks right into my soul, so hard to find....I'm sure it's right here...just need a little help in finding it lol.

Maybe in 3 or 4 years when I am fixed I can find one!

They don't exist? Since when?

Or, do you mean women like that who also into you don't exist?

I would like someone intelligent, creative, with a good sense of humor and good communications skills.

Someone without kids, who isn't ever going to want kids. Someone who doesn't drink.

Someone local, and who won't try to change me into a brain-dead cardboard cutout of a domesticated farm animal.

I actually met someone like this once. I'm pretty sure she's the only one who ever existed though.

there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?

Be who you are baby and the men who are looking for what you are will come calling.

Since you didn't use the quote option, I don't know who this is addressed to.

If you're responding to my comment above, no, I'm not intimidated by her. (Historically, I'm the one who is always referred to as "intimidating" and "complicated," although anyone who knows me at all, knows better than that.)

My issue is that all of my prior gfs (with one exception) have tried to turn me into Ward Cleaver, and that just ain't gonna happen.

I have no problem with independent women. I have issues with independent (or other) women trying to change me.

Im looking for someone whos not afraid to love. someone who gets my sense of humar. someone who listens to my words and finds mening in them.

A mouthful sir Lex. So many women (many times not even aware I'm sure)play tailor and never find the real man till he has had enough and seeks to find himself again. Then, this same woman does everything in her power to put it back on him as being at fault.

I have a problem with those who want to "fix" what isn't broken. Of course, their concept of "fix" is really more like "you need to be the traditional, mainstream, boring blah cardboard husband/father/goat that I SAY YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE."

And I say, "If you wanted THAT guy, why don't you just go after him in the first place?"

I think there's some sort of organization somewhere that offers expensive shoes to women who can CHANGE a guy into his polar opposite. There must be SOME incentive for this, because they have certainly harangued me to death with it.

An organization or conspiracy.

At the moment, I am looking for the TV remote. Anybody have any idea where it disappeared to?

Might be old tapes playing....which may cause the

unconscious attracting of the same type...over and over again....

Those old tapes need to be erased.

There are Lots of good self help books and websites out there,that

can help with that.

And also, seeking God's help wouldn't hurt either.

She hid it.

She's like that.

If there was a "She" here I wouldn't be on the computer posting in the forums, or looking for the remote.

Re: attracting the same types -- it's ancient history. Since I moved to Indiana, I haven't met a single solitary person. There's no danger of anyone trying to change me in real life here. I don't know anyone.

The ones who approach me, trying to change me now, are all on line. Easier to ignore.

I'm not really looking anymore. If someone shows up, well, I'm OK with that.

Seeking God's help? Well, I've tried that. Many times. The answer was, and has always been, a resounding silence. Sure, I would love to have some divine intervention, but there's a point where you just have to accept the fact that it's not happening.