Well...to start things off. I don't believe that having children is throwing your life away. I have three myself and I am quite content in my life. and i personaly have met and am dating an absolutely wonderful man. So yes there are nice guys out there. But most of the nice ones want a woman with respect and integrity and a little class. If you want some advice. I would say...start looking at how you may be precieved by men and then do something to change if need be. most people think that the problems are often the other persons fault. but only YOU are in charge of you....thats my advice.