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Would I be concerned? It depends on how/where she met the person, how long they've known each other and what all was said between them
And ANY parent who was naive enough to think that a 16 year old would actually tell them all the things that were said, especially if she knew they wouldn't think it was an appropriate subject, would seriously need to have their parenting skills called into question. That would depend on how the parents raised their kids. When I have my own family, I'm going to make it to where no subject is off limits, I want my kids to be able to be open with me about anything, regardless of topic. Part of the reason kids may react as you describe is because there is a lack of openness in ways like that now. Regardless of that though, even if she did hide things, whatever I didn't know could be found out from talking to the guy himself, probing him as it were on various matters, and seeing how he responds. Dude. You can make it a " no subject is off limits " environment, but you would also be naive to think that you will be told everything every time. As to the second part of your post.... yeah...HE'S gonna be 100% truthful when he meets her parents. Especially if he thinks that the parents don't find what he's doing acceptable in the first place. At this point, you are doing nothing but deluding yourself. You may, or may not, fall into the type of guy that the parents would be worried about. I have no idea and don't really care. They have every right to be worried. They also have EVERY right to tell you to get lost and stop contacting their daughter. being the mature individual that you are..are you going to respect their wishes if they tell you to piss off? About the first part, maybe, but I'd hope at least she'd be honest with me, as I would be with them. As for the guy being truthful with the parents, he may be, or he may not be, that said there are ways to find out intent, through asking certain questions, looking at body language, expressions, etc. There's more then one way to skin a cat man. Lastly, if they told me to go away and I really felt strongly for her, and she did me, I don't know that I would. I would try and prove to them that I mean no harm, regardless of what it took to do that. If they weren't happy about it even then, well to be honest really I'm not sure it would matter, particularly when the girl became of age. At that point it would be our choice to make, whether they like it or don't. You can't make everyone happy all the time. You feel strongly for her. Have you met her? No we have not, but from the talks we've had we do have a lot in common. You have not met this girl? And your in love with her, but yet you cant decide between her and another woman somewhere else. Thats not love, that's just jumping on the first thing that walks by you and flutters her eyes. I'm not jumping on you, just trying to make you see. This girl hasn't even went to her senior prom yet. When you get older and have kids of your own, you will fully understand what I am about to say.. If it was my daughter, this would be over right now. She is 16, she cant run off with you and you cant take her away or you will go to jail for kidnapping, the best bet is to just wait till she turns legal age and then see what happens. Your treading on dangerous grounds, be careful.. and make the right decesion.. The right one, not the one perched on your shoulder. |
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She is 16 going on 17 in the fall, so there would be a little waiting period there (not that we'd be sexually active anyway before she turned 18 as we both know better), and is in North Carolina considerably closer then Australia lol. Now I had thought about the possibility of maybe being with her before, but it sort of has been more an afterthought, since she isn't around much at all to really talk this being the first time we had since we met actually, outside of exchanging a few messages between now and then. So I find myself confused, do I take the chance and give her a shot and see where it goes, even with the whereabouts and otherwise of Vicky being unknown, or do I wait for a bit and see if/when she comes back and what is happening on her end? I'm kinda wondering with all this going on lately, if what I really want has always been there and I just never noticed it cause of how infrequent she is around, though at least she is. It's very confusing and I kind of want to keep my options open to other possibilities too, though don't want to hurt anyone here. Lot going through my mind right now, can anyone give me some advice? Why is a 16 year old considered to be an option for a 21 year old? Well the age gap isn't all that bad, by this time a year from now she'd almost be 18. Age is really but a number anyway, and it's not like it's over 10 years or anything like that. Age is very important when it is illegal. Like you say, if in a year she will be almost 18, then try waiting that year and see where she stands, see if she will wait too, if she don't, then don't count on her staying at all. |
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Topic:
ganging up on newbies
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Ignored yes, but no other members did not gang up on me. 
LOL, your not ignored.. Sorry |
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Yea, but one thing is true. The Marriage vows that you made to each other. You promised to love each other, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, till death do you part. I'm not sure what their vows are, but I am sure they didn't say , to have and to hold unless something happens and you cant do it for me anymore or until you get bad health or sick.
Thats just me though. I know that I could have never ever done that to my wife no matter what happened to her, I loved her entirely to much to even consider seeking satisfaction anywhere else. Too bad she didn't feel the same. |
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I believe people's personalities can be beautiful.
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Topic:
late night confessions
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i confess i'm tired of getting played, but i also confess i think its my own fault...........   i confess i think im supposed to know better....... 
You said it, I was played, but I knew I was being played, but I held on and hoped that I was wrong. Unfortunately I wasn't. |
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Edited by
John1932
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Thu 07/30/09 10:33 PM
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It can also go the opposite way.. Do you love me because I'm beautiful or am I beautiful because you love me. Don't ya feel more beautiful, sexy and alive when someone wonderful loves you? Absolutely. Well more handsome than beautiful, but yes |
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Topic:
late night confessions
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I confess that I'm having a little unexpected heartbreak... I confess, me too! 
There is something in the air! :( Not crushing, but definitely Heart breaking 
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Topic:
ganging up on newbies
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Again, I must reiterate, it is not up to the members here to police the problem threads/members, it is up to the mods and Admin, so, report the post or alert a mod to it so they can take the proper action. It is not okay to insult members here just because you don't like the approach they take in introducing themselves. There may be members here, especially the newbies, who are not familiar with your style of humor who will take offense, however subtle you make it appear. We were all newbies at one time...give 'em a break. I agree |
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Topic:
late night confessions
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 late night confessfions confess
I am HORNY but I can't do anything about it... 
Yea, been there, it SUX!!!! |
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Topic:
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so yeah hi jasmine or creepy talking bird lady!lol maybe for some odd reason and im just guessing is that people think their number of post they have made is a status symbol? last time i checked you dont get a cooker per 100 post you make so i think people made need to get off their high horse! im not saying that is the case but maybe it is. either way its almost human nature to do hazing but dating and meeting people is hard enough with some tooldeuche being down right rude to them.. I so agree... 
thanks john! I always support a good post
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Topic:
Not Crushing
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Not crushing here!!!
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I made horrible first impression..... Some day I will work on this!     
Yea me too, I have a lot of work to do. lol |
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Do I love you because your beautiful, or are you beautiful because I love you Do you have times when you meet someone you are not terribly attracted to them physically and as you get to know the person they get more and more better looking? Then all of a sudden they are so hot and you don't know why you didn't see it before.. Oh yea, I see that happening all the time, it doesn't happen to me, but I see it happening to others |
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Topic:
ganging up on newbies
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so yeah hi jasmine or creepy talking bird lady!lol maybe for some odd reason and im just guessing is that people think their number of post they have made is a status symbol? last time i checked you dont get a cooker per 100 post you make so i think people made need to get off their high horse! im not saying that is the case but maybe it is. either way its almost human nature to do hazing but dating and meeting people is hard enough with some tooldeuche being down right rude to them.. I so agree...
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I tend to agree with dan to an extent, lately I have been having a hard time getting girls to even meassge back, they just "view my profile" and then don't respond. Now no doubt not every girl is supposed to like any guy, but it gets stupid, when your on a dating site for a purpose, and the only thing are doing is viewing you?!?!?!?! but not actually messaging back. Now not all of them have done this, but it is very common. And when a girl has a thing about how she want's a guy with these interests etc etc and then you have all those interests or want the same thing, and they just shun you it's stupid.
I am a really nice guy and I sure dan is too, and I am sure we are just sick of the image barrier, I mean specially when your on this site, you think people would be a little less shallow. well anyways, thats how I view it. hopefully I will find a girl, who will acutally want to know me, and not just view me like a picture on a wall. 
Good one... Your not alone.... |
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Topic:
ganging up on newbies
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am i the only one who notices that SOME of you guys gang up on newbies? whether it be for perceived rudeness toward a friend (in which case there is a double standard because there is no backlash when the experienced minglers are rude to newbies) or because they posted a thread that may have been done before many times but is new to them... the reasons vary but i've noticed an air of condescension sometimes... just wondering what you guys thought... maybe i'm crazy? 
(i'm not sure if this thread is against the rules, if it is i apologize) If I had a comment, I would, but I dont so I wont say a word. Actually it has borderline happened to me, but I just back out before it gets worse. its all good... |
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Topic:
HollyWood Crushes
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Jennifer Aniston.
From what I have read she is a sweetie... |
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Topic:
hello i am a new member
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Hello and welcome
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are you saying your not a hot guy??? coulda fooled me... lmao I'm not even gonna comment on that. haha well I guess I just did. But I won't say anything else :) Confused at how I should take that...
Yea, its a guy thing, you have to beat it into our heads before we get it. Let me help!!! This is the way I take it... ***WHACK WHACK***!!!!!!!SHE SAYS SHE THINKS YOUR HOT!!!!!! exactly!! I thought it was pretty simple...but I guess sometimes its gotta be more blunt..silly boys. Yea, the blunt end of a stick.
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