Scoundrel, I see your point, and I also agree, to a point. It's something I've been waiting for to happen to me. When I say waiting, I mean that I go out and and expose myself to possibility, but I don't push for it or rush for it. It's that wonderous feeling of being alive, being wanted, being needed even, if just for that brief time. Maybe I'm freaky that way, I dunno, but I want to experience that overwhelming instant need. Isn't that kinda what you're talking about? I mean, at least I'm being honest, lol!

So many of y'all from northern Alabama! How about a little love for L.A.? Perdido, AL checking in.

Being new to this site, I hope no one gets the wrong idea about me...
When I was about 17 or so, my best friend and I took off to Austin, TX in her car. A few friends joined us, and we hit 6th street. Not sure exactly how it happened, but without a fake I'd, we got pulled into a bar by a doorman. Next thing we knew, drinks were being handed to us from every direction. It wasn't long before we were trashed, lol. Woke up in a strange apartment, next to a questionable looking man, and got the hell outta there! Thank God that I had a good friend living there at the time! He came and picked me up and took care of my hangover.

What I don't get is how when I was younger, the guys I dated didn't want a serious relationship, and now that I'm older it's all they seem to want. What happened to the idea of a non-serious, non-committed relationship that I never wanted when I was younger? Now that I want to just get out and have a good time, I can't seem to find anyone with the same mind-set? No, I'm not talking about running around having sex with random strangers, but more like an activity partner. Am I expecting too much?

I personally don't know any rules about dating. Men might think I'm a little crazy, but I'm upfront and honest from the get-go. If I get an email from a guy here, and his profile says he wants kids, I just respond with "I'm not the one for you". I won't beat around the bush. As far as dating goes, Iakm confused about that too. Thought the guy was the one that was supposed to run from commiment, not cling to a woman and ask them to get married after two weeks!

I can understand what you're saying. It's frustrating to me that our law enforcement officers don't get the respect they deserve. They put their lives on the line everyday to protect us. Yes, they do occassionally make mistakes. They are humans, not God. But most criminals usually ask for any poor treatment they receive from an officer. Don't know what happened with this woman and the taser, but if she was running or trying to attack an officer, I say the officer did what he thought was best at the time.

That is horrible news! This is the first I've heard of it, though I do live in Alabama. IMO, it would seem the criminal here got what he was after. You don't ever fire a weapon at police officers and expect to live, especially having killed 2 already. My prayers go out to the families of those officers who bravely served to protect. My prayers also go out to their fellow officers and other law enforcement officials. It really makes you wonder what the world is coming to when tragic events like this occur and nothing is mentioned through the media.

I think the most important aspect of this topic has been touched on. As a woman in need of more than her partner was willing to give, I started looking elsewhere. Actually, you could almost say I was waiting for the opportunity to present itself. I know what I did was not right, but after having the same discussion over and over with my partner about what I needed, I was tired of trying to keep it together. Listen to your woman. Don't try to fix all her problems, but at least pretend that you care. Women tend to want their partner to be their best friend as well as their lover. Be there for her, and love her well.

I'm fairly new to this site, and just wanted to say hello. I don't know any good plaves to go out to for some fun. Does anyone have any suggestions? Like Daphne or Mobile? Thanks!

"Looks like somebody's got a case of the Mondays." Love that one!

"Tis but a scratch." This coming from the Black Knight just after Arthur cuts his arm off.

Leia: "I love you."
Han: "I know"

I could go on and on, lol. Love movies!

Here's my problem with where I live. I'm about an hour from two cities, and there's not a whole lot to do here for social interaction. Yes, there's the casino, but it's hard to relax when I know most of the staff. And that place is like living in a small town, everyone is into everybody else's business. I won't drink and drive, and sad as it seems, I haven't made many friends since I moved out here. That's why I'm here. Make some friends, or maybe meet that special someone. Who knows? I felt like it was at least worth a shot.

To the person who commented about this being another post about a whiny fat person (didn't take the time to quote that), you are obviously blind. If I were fat, I'd have never started this thread. I'm just honestly curious about why it's so hard to meet anyone these days. And thank you, rko712. That was a sweet thing to say.

I suppose that everyone has their own opinions and thoughts on this subject. I dunno, the reason that I'd rather have the man approach me first is that I'm a bit old-fashioned. Maybe it's because of how I was raised, but I can flirt all day long and still not find the nerve to make the first move. Guess I need to get bolder. Grow myself a pair instead of waiting on the guy?
And as far as not being able to use my looks to get a guy to notice me at work, well, I joke and flirt and still get no response (except for guys old enough to be my father, lol). I can't say that I'm funny, but I do thing I can be charming. I dunno. Just having issues with being single again, even though it was my decision.

Ah, but herein lies the problem. I approach men, and they seem to only want one-nighters. I'm not really big on those, and I truely do want some companionship. Friend, boyfriend, whatever. I do flirt a bit on the job, but as was pointed out, they probably assume that I'm looking for a better tip. It's hard to meet interesting people.
And just for the record, I don't flash my ta-ta's at work. In fact, with my uniform, it's nearly impossible to even show cleavage, lol!

This is my first time to post anything aside from asking for some advice. I'm not new to the site, been around a little while, just haven't been bold enough to get out here on the forums. So here I am!
Now, to add something for discussion... Why is it that a person has an easier time opening up to strangers online than to try to find someone to talk with IRL? Personally, I haven't met anyone while out and about that has really sparked my intrest. I live out in the middle of nowhere, and trying to pick up someone in a local bar isn't my way. While I work in a place that would seem to be conductive in helping to meet people, my uniform is so freaking shapeless that most folks can't even tell that I have curves. I mean, my best assest, aside from my eyes, has to be my chest. I see lots of good-looking, single men, but most don't give me a second glance. Talk about knocking someone down a few notches! lol So in my quest to find someone at least half-way intelligent that is physically appealing, I've not had any luck. That's why I'm here. Are men truely intimidated by nice-looking women? If so, they need to give themselves a swift kick in the a$$ and get over it. You never know what'll happen if you just try to talk. I know about fear of rejection, but you never know if you never try. I'm ready to have some fun in life, and would really like to find someone who's ready to help me out a little. Does this make me crazy or desperate? I'm honestly not sure. But I'd really like to know if anyone else feels this way.

For those of you that have responded, thank you for your advice. I have changed my profile around a bit, posted a new pic, and am curious if it makes much of a difference. Yes, I do sometimes wear glasses, but I also have contact lenses. Sometimes I just don't feel like putting them in, lol. So please let me know if these changes are for the better.

P.S. Big thank you to psprettysmile. I think a woman's viewpoint is sometimes better than a man's. I appreciate your honesty!

Well, I got lucky. I only have to see my ex once a week now. We're polite and cordial, but I'm always picturing giving him a swift kick to the jewels lol.

Hello to whoever decides to read this. I'm not sure what men think of me when they see my profile. Do I seem too boring? Unattractive? What's the deal here? I haven't gotten many responses from people on this site. Would someone please tell me what I should do? Thank you for any advice, even if it's harsh.

Sorry, best I can do is get ya a fresh cup. Hehehe

Oops, thought I had uploaded a photo. There should be one now.