I have never cheated on anyone before. No, not all women cheat. A small percentage do, whether they are single or married (i.e. the single may be with someone who is attached).

I personally hate touching the underside of the seat when it might potentially have been sprayed upon, or worse....

Then, there is always the possibility of falling in the water if you use the toilet at night when you are really really sleepy. lol

Its not, but it may be harder to trust. Harder to feel safe.

Maybe add on to that sleeping the entire weekend (night and day) away most of the time when you are together of late....

I'm hopeful, but I'm afraid I won't be able to get through it -even though I don't know what I'll choose at this point.

I'm hopeful, but I'm afraid I won't be able to get through it -even though I don't know what I'll choose at this point.

Thanks for the boost, silly and wolfchic. Even if I don't act on the good advice now, your words helped me. They really did.

You always make me laugh.

Change is threatened every afternoon. This stress isn't good for me.

You may have a cuckqueen fetish, but the point remains that he broke your trust and disrespected you. Do you trust him to keep you emotionally safe throughout this experience and after? And, will you be okay if he decides to move on after the experience?

Hate to say it, but it kind of reminds me of a crack w@o#re's look.

He has admitted as much at times. At other times, he has angrily recanted and said how could I ever think he said that. At times, he says I do not hear anything he says, or that I twist it all out of context. I have never been accused of this before in my life by anyone.


Thank you for your post, Suz

The little gap of space between the thighs many women have, as opposed to the dreaded "thunder thighs" some of us have.

Some of these are extreme, but you get the point.

Surely, you're kidding?

You are right, of course. And, really, right now, I'm not specifically seeking advice, just venting and trying to calm myself down and get back some feelings of self-worth, if only briefly. I am good at speaking up for myself....but like you say above, at some point, you have so much invested that it is very hard to change the status quo. I would be devastated if we ended at this point.

Sad part is, I have been accused of allegedly "emotionally abusing" them for getting upset with the head-spins, wolf comments, and body turns. I have also been told that it is emotionally abusive to seek reassurance that they still desire me or want to be in the relationship after they stop being intimate or affectionate most of the time....and after everything that I tend to say irritates them immensely. On the one hand, I'm told it is abusive to think they have or would ever be unfaithful to me. On the other hand, I'm warned not ever to look for that sort of "trouble" because I just might discover something I don't want to find. On the one hand, I am told that they have cheated almost every time they have gone away on an overnight business trip while they were in other relationship(s) - but that I am very insecure and a "psycho" to think they would do it to me. They say it is abnormal for me to stress about these things. Is it unreasonable?

You are right, of course. And, really, right now, I'm not specifically seeking advice, just venting and trying to calm myself down and get back some feelings of self-worth, if only briefly. I am good at speaking up for myself....but like you say above, at some point, you have so much invested that it is very hard to change the status quo. I would be devastated if we ended at this point.

Sad part is, I have been accused of allegedly "emotionally abusing" them for getting upset with the head-spins, wolf comments, and body turns. I have also been told that it is emotionally abusive to seek reassurance that they still desire me or want to be in the relationship after they stop being intimate or affectionate most of the time....and after everything that I tend to say irritates them immensely. On the one hand, I'm told it is abusive to think they have or would ever be unfaithful to me. On the other hand, I'm warned not ever to look for that sort of "trouble" because I just might discover something I don't want to find. On the one hand, I am told that they have cheated almost every time they have gone away on an overnight business trip while they were in other relationship(s) - but that I am very insecure and a "psycho" to think they would do it to me. They say it is abnormal for me to stress about these things. Is it unreasonable?

One I know of has difficulty keeping their own weight off without artificial means. There is also a family history of obesity and COPD. That might be where their fears stem from. However, they also make it known time and time again that they prefer women with "gap", as vulgar as that may sound.

This makes sense. Thank you. Its because I love and respect him that it affects me.

I hear the rest of what you are saying, but I am not yet in the place to take that advice. I do appreciate your strength and support, though. I will think on your words.