This is an interesting topic.

Sex can be good and bad depending on what we feel is right or wrong, is a turn on and what isn't. A lot of chemistry comes with people who first meet, and sometimes the first sex encounter can be terrible.

See there was something I remember the older generation telling me about, love the person first... Too many younger generations today, have a misconception about love and sex, and lust. You can lust easily, all the time, and for the most part. I think everyone does, maybe not to the extreme as others, but if the sex is bad, like everyone else is basically saying.

Communication. That's key, is the love their? Does your partner care? These are important things to remember when having sex, and also just as much as you don't want bad sex, no one wants to be known for being bad at sex. However if the love is their, figure things out, introduce new ideas, talk about turn on's and turn offs. You can spend the rest of your life trying to figure your partner out and reading their mind, or you can just talk about it and make it work for you both.

One thing is certain though, when you do figure it out and genuinely love the person your with, you clearly know the difference between sex and making love.

Exactly... I think a lot of this is the social conditioning that we go through as children and we try and live up the acceptable society norm. The truth is, people can learn to bond in many different ways, and if you could look past the outside for more than a few weeks, you might see a completely different response.

I've seen in many cases, strong manly men cower in a situation that most women would expect because of his physical appearance he should be able to overcome, and seen the small ugly man stand up and face the same challenge without breaking a sweat.

It's really a lot of conditioning that we go through. Think about it like this... Do you care if the guy or girl who just saved you, your mom or your kids is ugly? No, I bet you're thankful and love them either way. Experience will always overcome our shallow views.

True happiness will come when we can stop looking at just the outside and learn to appreciate the beauty and truth of what someone is genuinely.

Treasure chests, stars and the bright full-moon...
Seeking a fantasy that can heal and soothe...
Many a dreamer lay awake in their beds...
Remembering only then, the things that were said...

Questioning loyalty, and if friendship is true...
Everyone has a place in this world, what about you?...
Testing again, life seems to repeat itself...
Only this time, I can make it with no help...

Are we so different, can we be measured by creed?...
Oceans and spirits seem connected, they even run deep...
Love not only what is pleasing, or you may not see...
The truth underneath the exterior, the kindness in me...

Peace be to you sisters and brothers...
May you find the love and embrace of one another...

-Daniel Critelli