We don't want to call it what it really is anymore for fear of sounding wrong ourselves. After all, aren't we just supposed to "let go"? Especially after the person lies, is unfaithful as a friend, a lover, and then completely refuses to own what they have done. Anyone can eventually get over their love for someone if they are forced to. But it just simply should never be that way, and all of us know it. When we commit, that is what we do. The pain of abandonment can be especially painful for a man when there is a child involved, infant or no. This is because we, as men, are not supposed to get emotional about things, even when that quality was one of the things that drew our mate to us in the first place. There can be no strength for either partner without the love and strength of the other. That's how it is, and to try and pretend that you have something "real" after abandoning the one you promised your heart to is a fallacy. We need to begin communicating these very old fashioned ideals to our culture again. There are too many people hurt every hour of every day because our society has been empowered to believe that "anything goes".