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Topic: Abandonment
novaconn3 Joined Fri 03/13/09 Posts: 1	Mon 07/27/09 04:40 PM
We don't want to call it what it really is anymore for fear of sounding wrong ourselves. After all, aren't we just supposed to "let go"? Especially after the person lies, is unfaithful as a friend, a lover, and then completely refuses to own what they have done. Anyone can eventually get over their love for someone if they are forced to. But it just simply should never be that way, and all of us know it. When we commit, that is what we do. The pain of abandonment can be especially painful for a man when there is a child involved, infant or no. This is because we, as men, are not supposed to get emotional about things, even when that quality was one of the things that drew our mate to us in the first place. There can be no strength for either partner without the love and strength of the other. That's how it is, and to try and pretend that you have something "real" after abandoning the one you promised your heart to is a fallacy. We need to begin communicating these very old fashioned ideals to our culture again. There are too many people hurt every hour of every day because our society has been empowered to believe that "anything goes".

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Mon 07/27/09 04:42 PM
Interesting first post. Welcome to mingle.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21824	Mon 07/27/09 04:46 PM
It's a tough fast changing world.

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Mon 07/27/09 04:47 PM
Welcome Novaconn. I happen to agree with your post or most of it anyway. Many people don't understand committment. Loving someone is always a gamble. I have known people who have "forced" their loved ones to stay in relationships using guilt or money or whatever. A relationship without love is a shell. While we can instill our values in the next generation, they have free will and independent thought and will continue to make choices based on their preferences and life experience. My parents instilled their values in me but it didn't stop my husband from leaving. While love is painful, I wouldn't miss the ride for anything. Again welcome.

okdonnie Joined Wed 06/17/09 Posts: 10	Mon 07/27/09 05:05 PM
I think it is best summed up by Garth Brooks in his song. "the Dance". And I wouldn't have missed it for the world

JasmineInglewood Joined Wed 11/28/07 Posts: 4447	Mon 07/27/09 05:06 PM
welcome to the craziness

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Mon 07/27/09 05:10 PM
The answer to your question is Yes we are supposed to let go.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 07/27/09 05:16 PM
We don't want to call it what it really is anymore for fear of sounding wrong ourselves. After all, aren't we just supposed to "let go"? Especially after the person lies, is unfaithful as a friend, a lover, and then completely refuses to own what they have done. Anyone can eventually get over their love for someone if they are forced to. But it just simply should never be that way, and all of us know it. When we commit, that is what we do. The pain of abandonment can be especially painful for a man when there is a child involved, infant or no. This is because we, as men, are not supposed to get emotional about things, even when that quality was one of the things that drew our mate to us in the first place. There can be no strength for either partner without the love and strength of the other. That's how it is, and to try and pretend that you have something "real" after abandoning the one you promised your heart to is a fallacy. We need to begin communicating these very old fashioned ideals to our culture again. There are too many people hurt every hour of every day because our society has been empowered to believe that "anything goes". you can preach this till your blue in the face....but the thing is the majority of the people won't give a ****,and they see things in different aspects as others do....so do to the experiences that they have gone through...people react and respond differently...its a my way or the highway mentality that has gotten out of control..

lonetar25 Joined Mon 05/18/09 Posts: 3531	Mon 07/27/09 05:34 PM
We don't want to call it what it really is anymore for fear of sounding wrong ourselves. After all, aren't we just supposed to "let go"? Especially after the person lies, is unfaithful as a friend, a lover, and then completely refuses to own what they have done. Anyone can eventually get over their love for someone if they are forced to. But it just simply should never be that way, and all of us know it. When we commit, that is what we do. The pain of abandonment can be especially painful for a man when there is a child involved, infant or no. This is because we, as men, are not supposed to get emotional about things, even when that quality was one of the things that drew our mate to us in the first place. There can be no strength for either partner without the love and strength of the other. That's how it is, and to try and pretend that you have something "real" after abandoning the one you promised your heart to is a fallacy. We need to begin communicating these very old fashioned ideals to our culture again. There are too many people hurt every hour of every day because our society has been empowered to believe that "anything goes". the point of your thread was lost on me when you kept showing some kind of bitterness needless to say, we at mingle will never abando..............