Lots of women would probably love to go out with Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Matthew McConaughey or Tom Cruise, and lots of men would probably love to go out with Angelina Jolie, Nicole Kidman Sandra Bullock or Julia Roberts. And if all you want is a night on the town, any of those choices would be fine, I guess. But if you’re looking for more than a fling, you’re pretty much out of luck. Most of the Hollywood hunks and hotties change relationships so fast even the paparazzi can’t keep up. Maybe it’s because they get addicted to being told how wonderful they are. I mean, when you’re Tom Cruise, women tend to adore you and it hurts your ego when Nicole Kidman tells you to throw out your life-sized L. Ron Hubbard action figure, stop believing your own press, pick up your dirty socks, play with the kids, TALK to her and act like you care about stuff that REALLY matters. By now, you’ve already figured out…I’m not Tom Cruise. My guess is, you’re not Nicole Kidman either. (If you are, I really liked Cold Mountain :-)). If I wanted to emulate a Hollywood hunk, I’d pick Sean Connery. He’s been married to Micheline Roquerbrune for 35 years. True, it’s his second marriage, but even Hollywood types are allowed to make mistakes. Of course, we’ve all made mistakes, and I’ve made mine. People in great relationships don’t join dating sites right? And neither does Brad Pitt or Julia Roberts. Men who have worked through the hurts, left the past behind, learned some valuable life lessons (like never wear white socks with black shoes if you want women to do any more than just laugh) and who are looking to share their lives with the last love of their life DO join dating sites. That’s why I’m here. I work in Social Services because helping people in crisis is a pion for me. I like making a positive difference in people’s lives and I sleep well at night. I’ll never have Matthew McConaughey’s money, but that’s OK. There are more important things – like you, for instance. And speaking of you…. I want to smile and be distracted when I think of you during the day. I want to buy you that item you liked while we were window shopping, but which you’d never buy for yourself. I want you to know that even though I’m not their Dad, your kids and their hopes, dreams, skinned knees and baseball games are important to me too. You like the fact that I have only one mother – and that you’re not her. You like the fact that I’ve got the greatest sister a guy could have, and won’t be put off by her even though she’s officially the crazy cat lady. I’m not embarred to hold your hand, or your purse – even if it clashes with my shoes. You have an offbeat sense of humor and a highly developed sense of irony and (good natured) sarcasm. You root for the underdog and gross injustice makes you mad. I think it's cute when you snort as you laugh. You make fun of me in a good-natured way and laugh at yourself just as easily. You act younger than you look because I like mature women who haven't forgotten what it's like to be a girl. You know you’ll be treated just as well in private as you are in public, and whether you’re wearing blue jeans or pearls. You don’t want to be a football, or basketball or golf “widow”. It appeals to your sense of adventure and romance that a well-grounded guy would turn his own world upside down and risk everything at the chance for love, and who likes both action movies and “chick flicks” equally well. You’re comfortable with someone who loves a good book, has a strong philosophical side, communicates well and enjoys hearing about the mundane details of your day. If you’ve read this far, you’re not looking for Brad Pitt. I’m not sure he’s available right now anyway, but give it a couple of weeks ? If you have a sense of adventure, want kisses as spicy as the food I eat, want to be adored like there’s no tomorrow and are up for the last love of your life, write me back. Thanks for taking the time to read this “missive”, but reading “I’m a laid back guy who likes barbecue, beer and football” has GOT to be boring after you’ve read it in 200 profiles, right? Besides….that’s not me either. And good luck in your search…even if you ARE searching for Johnny Depp!