Simply put: In the movie Cousins, Lloyd Bridges says to his son: Life can either be chicken **** or chicken salad. The choice is yours. R you a woman who is will to help make salad? Some ingredients that I bring to the mix: My belief that life is adventuresome and even fun. I have faced many difficult tasks, including taking care of my deceased wife for 7 years before her death. She died in January, 2007. Yet, I am happy and optimistic. Another ingredient is playfulness and romance. I like to play everyday like Einstein. Add a generous dose of gentleness and a firm belief in the Baha'i Faith. While gently heating these ingredients over tenderness, stir in a prayer for and commitment to World Peace. Pour into the bowl of "family man," Pop into the frig of togetherness and allow it to slowly meld. This is where the salad leaves the category of "chicken salad" to your chicken salad. After it cools a bit, fold in the "secret ingredients" that the woman brings to the relationship. like knowledge of recovery. What are some of your secret ingredients. Let's meet and talk. Consult and negotiate boundaries. Dream and aspire to a future together. What do you think of my outline recipe for chicken salad? Do you have a recipe that you want to share? Tell me about it. Sincerely, Arthur AKA "AJ"