During a discussion concerning relationships yesterday, the idea of both parties in the relationship being in the same place in life and/or thought was seriously entertained.

By place, I mean how one thinks, feels, reacts, and where one is heading as well as where one has been... Have the lessons learned by both taught similar beliefs? Are the goals of both able to be kept and reached within the relationship?

No matter of the physical attraction aspect, can a relationship survive if the personalities and paths are not similar enough? How much of a difference would it take for the difference to be too much?

Just wondering... I will send ya the consultation bill later...

Just kiddin'...

Anyone???

timing...it's all timing.....

So then, ddn:

Can two people meet too soon? I mean, if circumstances would have allowed lessons to be taught before, then some failed relationships would have not failed?

That sounds understandable... almost obvious, huh?

they say opposites attract

Two can be in the same book, but not always on the same page.

Good morning everyone...



Complimentary facets work best, I would guess... from my own personal experience... that which brings out the best of each other...

I wonder then, if, when first beginning a relationship, one would be able to recognize the differences at hand between the two personalities and the prior lessons learned?

That kind of recognition is displayed and reflected by one's opinion(s) of what is being experienced and why isn't it?

How one views the world around them is a direct reflection of that which has been learned about this world, is it not?

yes,

ddn:

I am sorry dear, I did not mean to bring about negative emotion here...

not necessarily negative.....Just remember some that got away...because "the timing wasn't right".....




i think we all have experienced it at one time or another.....

you know....."...if things were different blah blah blah...."

Is there anything that can be learned from what happened?

Are we, as humans, capable of assessing the situation before an attachment causes an impending hurt?

oh yea...it's called self control....


but I say bring on the hurt!!! Why do you think they call it "falling"?



George Strait said it best..."If you ain't Lovin', You ain't Livin'

i think you meet people when you do because they are there for a reason and meeting at the wrong time is just because you have an attraction or feelings that can't be acted upon...if the timeing isn't right then it was never meant to be...

btw...we don't really know each other, well enough for you to call me "Dear"




Because.........I'm A DUDE!





but if you really want to.....i'll pretend it's OK

Guess that all depends on what one defines 'lovin' as...

Hurtin'?

Nah!!!!

I'll pass on that one... had my fill already...

My bad dd:



Musta been the flower...

mac:

I am also of the belief that everything happens for a reason...

Meant to be?

Fate?

I dunno about all of that though...

It implies predestination...

C..all I can say is by past experience, that we ( a friend and I )were on the wrong page 17 yrs ago, and we caught up with each other 5 yrs ago, still on the 'wrong page'!! Some things aren't meant to be.

So all I have to say is that we shouldn't look at 'what if's'...just go for it and if it works out good for you, if it doesn't move on!! If I start thinking about why I didn't accept the relationship 17 yrs ago...I'd go nuts

lula:

So you recognized the differences... do you think it is possible to do this before it is too late?

How difficult is it to do without wrongfully diagnosing the situation at hand, as one sees it?

hopefully, you use what your experience has taught you.....but at the end of the day.....We don't have the luxury of staring into a "Crystal Ball"

we can hope!!!

but my dad always says....Hope and $3.00 will get you a cup of coffee at Starbuck's

I suppose like anything how we approach relationships is quite individual. I know couples that have almost nothing in common and they love the diversity. It works for them on the levels they need it to.

Other couples are like mirrors of one another and that too serves the relationship well.

I want my partner to be my best friend too so I like to have enough in common to enjoy everyday life and experiences. What is more important though is that we resonate with one another in some fundamental areas.

One being a similarity in how we communicate. Turning toward one another not away especially in times of strife and discomfort.

Also a similarity in values, philosophies and what we want for our life together. We don't have to agree on everything but respect is paramount.

A relationship should build one another up ... bring out the best ... there is enough in the world to tear us down already...


...good morning love ... it must be early here ... with this sleep still in my eyes I coulda swore you have started calling dudes dear ...