i didn't assume that silly

I was saying about that grabbin of her hand - legally it's an assault. I have had this with an ex that drove by, came to my work, tried to grab my hand etc. funny how he backed off when I pointed out that legally that can be stalking and assault....which it can be. My point is talking to him if she wants him to go away won't work if he's already calling and doing drive bys and going to her work. I did suggest her telling her manager

Just giving options. If you don't want to do them...that is up to you. Nothing more, nothing less

I don't think it's funny I think it's pathetic. It's obvious you like being chased and being played around with. Have you even told him your not interested? Looks like your enjoying ignoring him and having him linger at the tip of your finger. Tell him your not interested and move on. Your making this way too difficult...

Grabbing a persons hand is legally assault... God what's next, looking at a girl will soon be sexual harrasment. You females take it way too far.

If you had hurtful times with him, drop him and move on. Tell him "you had your chance. You need to get in a place in your mind where you're not going to hurt anyone. You need to be respectful toward women to keep their attention and their favor." and leave it at that. If he's intelligent, he'll get the message.

Tell your parents about this guy bugging you and tell your managers and co-workers. If you don't want him trying to continue to contact him, tell him. If he continues, call the police. If he touches you and you don't want him too, get him charged with assault. That should stop further attentions and tell him you're seriuos. If he comes on your property, charge him with trespassing.

Matter of fact, when you set him straight, tell him straight out, if the unwelcome attention continues, you'll bring the authorities in. That should stop things right there. You can also contact his parents if he's living at home.

Good luck to you. I can't say as I bleme him for trying again, though. You have a real nice photo on here. I'd be very surprised if you were ever at a loss for attention.

I agree...you should tell him you aren't interested (unless you are) but you need to tell him to sstop wit the drive bys an not to come to your job for personal things like that

after that..if he still does it...then call the cops. And no one has a right to grab or touch anyone unless it's wanted by the other person

urm why should we put up with been grabbed anywhere..its our bodies what the hell gives anyone
the right for anyway to touch us anywhere if we dont want

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that actually goes for anyone....man or woman

I think I'd call the cops if a girl grabbed my hand. I mean OMG. That would just scare the hell out of me. I've just been assaulted!!! Please...

Please be careful and don't take it lightly. I used to brush off things and there is overacting, but if he's stalking you, it could pose a real danger. I've been there. Listen to your heart, but better safe than sorry. People are just trying to help you.

oh i see your so funny...guess the bruises i were left with when a man ONLY GRABBED my arm was ok then ????

rover...I was referring to the OP saying forceably and telling her manager he was hurting her.

nah i think this guys thinks its ok to grab someone and hurt them rose

Ya just have to be blunt with them..
When I was having trouble with one of my ex's showing up at my work, calling me at work, being in my car after work and basically telling me flat out that he wouldnt accept my decision.? I saved his emails. Talked with security at my job. Saved his voice mails. Because I refused to answer the phone when he called. Then I flat out told him. Back off or I will press charges. There were a few more instances but by basically ignoring the situation and showing him that I had moved on did the trick.

BOYFRIENDS WHO CAN'T LET GO....."HAVE" KILLED THEIR GIRLFRIEND BEFORE!!!

So giggle giggle, I THINK NOT'''
YOU should take HIM very serious and be on gaurd for anything..

Rape happens ALOT by a stalker and some can flip-out into total monsters...So Parents need to KNOW ALL...and then the police, so THAT-AWAY, if you come up dead someone will have an idea where to look as for your murderer,,,,,

just a thought,,,GOOD LUCK....

what she said ....

sounds too familiar to me
I had to recently go to court and get a restraining order on my ex.U have to stay safe. Dont be one of the ppl that say "It cant happen to me". know i didnt want to be.

good luck

Now that I think on it., I had one of those here on JSH .. geesh he even knows my address.

OMG. Would he take it so far as makin a trip from NY. eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek

I agree with lilith here...admitting to driving by doesn't make him a stalker...just someone who hopes he can catch you at home to have conversation in person that he obviously tried to have with you at your workplace, as inappropriate as that was. I'll assume that he's young and give him some allowances for that even at this point.

When he's sleeping outside your house, becomes best friends with the next door neighbor, follows you down the grocery store isle and shows up at parties he was not invited to to be near you...then call me...after you've filed a complaint with the police.

Threats, poison pen letters, and poems about two lovers dying by the same knife...it's time for restraining orders and seeking help from his friends or family in the way of interventions and lots of meds!!!

So far, it sounds like you have a guy who esteems you, misses you and had some misguided idea that by demanding a chance to state his declaration of love to you, he might win your heart. He's probably been watching too much Lifetime again.

Having been here myself, as well as in the scenario I spelled out earlier, I would advise a watchful eye, a clear, but kind statement of how you feel, and letting those around you know that you've had a disagreeable break up.

I'm not trying to belittle your situation at all, and know it can be frightening to be grabbed like that...and feel like you're being followed, but to give it more consideration than what it's worth, so far, will only empower it and encourage further action if he feels it's getting your attention in any way.

Good luck with this, and don't let it sour your future dates...it's one guy. There are too many good guys to label them all. You seem like a sweet gal and I'm sure you'll be telling good dating stories before you know it.

chin up sweetie!