Just take your time. Be straightforward from the beginning.I come as a party package with 5 kids of my own. I place my kids above and beyond anyone or anything else. They are my life.

Be thankful that the guys who dont want to accept your kids are straightforward about telling you. They could instead play games. I'd rather be a lil hurt early on than majorly hurt later on.

On those days that you feel lonely and sad... Find a way to pull yourself up and out of the blues. My thing? I grab my camera and take photos. Or I take pen to paper and write. I dont even realize what I am writing until I am done. Then after a time passes. I reread them and can say to myself... Wow! I've come a long way.
Most important.... Grab a mirror, look yourself in the eye every day and tell yourself.. I am beautiful, i am a good person, I am a fantastic mother, and I am Happy..

It sounds silly maybe but build up yourself to you! Eventually you will find someone that will take you and your boys into his heart. When you do? Well, that will be the best reward you can get for being patient.