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Topic: WHY DO MEN HAVE TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMAN?
sasfire75 Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 3242	Mon 03/17/08 08:49 AM
Both men and women look, men just get caught more than the women. well that aint quite true there not all women look I dont Im with the guy I want then my eyes dont need to wander then and that is the way I feel..why should i look when I got what i want

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Mon 03/17/08 08:50 AM
I have always & will always look. It is only wrong if you leer or touch. Gwen never objected to looking, knew what I preferred.

Zilla81 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 443	Mon 03/17/08 08:50 AM
1. I can't help it. 2. Women do it just as much 3. Take comfort in that when I'm with another woman, I may look at you and you'll like it. 4. Woman are like works of art. When I took my last GF to the Smithsonian, she didnt ***** that I looked at other paintings. ok I'm done, lol.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 03/17/08 08:52 AM
Both men and women look, men just get caught more than the women. well that aint quite true there not all women look I dont Im with the guy I want then my eyes dont need to wander then and that is the way I feel..why should i look when I got what i want Whether it's consciously or subconsciously everyone looks. I am not referring to ogling, nor drooling, nor shopping, but human nature and human curiousity and just the fact that they crossed our line of sight makes one look.

Turtlepoet78 Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 1423	Mon 03/17/08 08:52 AM
Yup, it's kind of an instinct for most men, as long as it's just looking;^]

Sassier2u Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 1024	Mon 03/17/08 08:54 AM
Theres nothing wrong with just looking well no there aint its the comments that come after looking at women that bothers me the most The comments after there should not be any. They should be kept to himself. Looking is not a problem

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 03/17/08 08:55 AM
Theres nothing wrong with just looking well no there aint its the comments that come after looking at women that bothers me the most The comments after there should not be any. They should be kept to himself. Looking is not a problem The comments are not necessary and truly lacking class.

2002 Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 46	Mon 03/17/08 08:56 AM
Both men and women look, men just get caught more than the women. well that aint quite true there not all women look I dont Im with the guy I want then my eyes dont need to wander then and that is the way I feel..why should i look when I got what i want its just eye candy....and If i know how he really feels about me...and hes with me.....we dont have any control over other people....but...if we feel secure with that person..and know them...it shouldnt bother us...i have been thru this before...i understand your concern and frustration on this topic

sasfire75 Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 3242	Mon 03/17/08 08:56 AM
Ok ty for the comments....I really do appreciate everyones input on this matter..

2002 Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 46	Mon 03/17/08 08:59 AM
Theres nothing wrong with just looking well no there aint its the comments that come after looking at women that bothers me the most The comments after there should not be any. They should be kept to himself. Looking is not a problem i agree....he should keep the comments to himself...sounds like he wants a reaction out of you....what does he need from you...

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Mon 03/17/08 08:59 AM
There is a difference between looking and commenting. I dpn't get upset at looking. Heck, if a woman walked by with her goods on display, I'd look too. It's hard not to. But the comments, they are rude. I'd not put up with it. Have to agree with this nothing wrong with looking now the conments are just not called for at all. That is about as rude as one can get and would not be walking next to me would tell them to hit the door. That would be like talking about another women while your in bed with them shshshshsh

pottscamp Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 38	Mon 03/17/08 09:00 AM
there pigs some not all

pottscamp Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 38	Mon 03/17/08 09:02 AM Edited by pottscamp on Mon 03/17/08 09:02 AM
me too

sasfire75 Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 3242	Mon 03/17/08 09:03 AM
Theres nothing wrong with just looking well no there aint its the comments that come after looking at women that bothers me the most The comments after there should not be any. They should be kept to himself. Looking is not a problem i agree....he should keep the comments to himself...sounds like he wants a reaction out of you....what does he need from you... hun that is just it they dont ever need anything when there with me I make sure of that...I make sure the guy i am with at the time knows how much I love him and care for him and will do anything for him...

pottscamp Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 38	Mon 03/17/08 09:03 AM
there pigs not all but most

2002 Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 46	Mon 03/17/08 09:05 AM
There is a difference between looking and commenting. I dpn't get upset at looking. Heck, if a woman walked by with her goods on display, I'd look too. It's hard not to. But the comments, they are rude. I'd not put up with it. Have to agree with this nothing wrong with looking now the conments are just not called for at all. That is about as rude as one can get and would not be walking next to me would tell them to hit the door. That would be like talking about another women while your in bed with them shshshshsh it did happen to me before....if he is that rude to make comments right in front of you...tell him...well if that what you want..go for it..if not shut up

PragmaticMind Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 1098	Mon 03/17/08 09:06 AM Edited by PragmaticMind on Mon 03/17/08 09:11 AM
It's one thing to just look and another to make comments. Don't make such a big deal out of being human. We're visuals. We enjoy the beauty of others. No matter if it's a man captivated by another womans presence or a woman of a mans. The only way it causes problems, is if one of the 2 is insecure. In my mind, if you're insecure; you're better off fixing what's broken within before being in a relationship. I will honestly say; I'm a woman, always devoted to my man. However, I am human and I do enjoy the gorgeousness of men. However, I don't take those thoughts home with me (or I should be single) as I am.. but for reasons other than this topic. Jealousy is a lack of inner security.. you can't leave your house without being confident of who you are (or you're bound to attract what you really don't care to have in your life). Why do you think women who are less confident, weak and don't have a back-bone end up with some sort of abuser. Then there are women like me, I'm confident, stand strong on my own two feet, have a mind, mouth, feelings, etc. of my own and not afraid to put them too good use. I will rid of any man quicker than he can tell me what he THINKS I should be doing, feeling, saying, etc. Don't be a fool and let being human, as well as being proud of your surroundings (sublimity) to frown your days. Hmmm.. I have a lot to say today p.s. Even when your partner seeks out another womans beauty, it's still a compliment to you. You're the one standing proud next to him.. not to mention, going home with him (if y'all live together). It's no different if a woman seeks our your honey.. heck, even if a compliment is made with body language, eye contact or even orally stated.. your is sugar plum LOL and you're also being complimented for your existence in his life

sasfire75 Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 3242	Mon 03/17/08 09:08 AM
There is a difference between looking and commenting. I dpn't get upset at looking. Heck, if a woman walked by with her goods on display, I'd look too. It's hard not to. But the comments, they are rude. I'd not put up with it. Have to agree with this nothing wrong with looking now the conments are just not called for at all. That is about as rude as one can get and would not be walking next to me would tell them to hit the door. That would be like talking about another women while your in bed with them shshshshsh it did happen to me before....if he is that rude to make comments right in front of you...tell him...well if that what you want..go for it..if not shut up ummmmm....been there done that all i get is baby you know I just want you and only you or I'm with you aint I,I come home to you dont I...well yes you do....well then what is the prob is what he says lol

wildchild79 Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 1	Mon 03/17/08 09:09 AM
Ok I know you ladies are going to hate me here but I have to be honest! I dont care if my man looks at other chicks. Lord knows I will comment on men or ladies. I am right there with him looking! LOL! I even speak my mind as Im looking. I am secure in myself and how sexy I am. I know I can please my partner in the sack so I am not worried about them straying! If they do then it's just not meant to be. Unless we invite a partner in the sack with us, which I am so down for. I am very open minded and tend to think like a man where sex is concerned. Ok men I stuck up for you!

kojack Joined Mon 12/25/06 Posts: 16382	Mon 03/17/08 09:09 AM
Honestly I see nothing wrong with looking. I don't mean stare drop your mouth, that is RUDE. I believe if your relationship is strong enough it shouldn't be a problem if either of you look at someone of oppisite sex.