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Topic: this is weird
katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 10:56 PM
Okay there's this guy I talk to, and we get along really well. We talk every night from midnight til sunrise and it's really great. The problem is, he says he doesn't want a relationship with anyone because he's scared of commitment. Then he says he might want one, because he's lonely. Then he says how great I am and how much we have in common. So I know he likes me, I'm just wondering if it's possible that he'll like me enough to change his mind about wanting a relationship, or am I wasting my time and setting myself up for heartache? Thanks in advance.

Cambolaya65 Joined Mon 09/03/07 Posts: 5587	Fri 03/14/08 10:57 PM
*Ultimatum**

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 03/14/08 10:57 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready

toastedoranges Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 11042	Fri 03/14/08 10:58 PM
sounds like a pain in the butt and he's too confused to do you any good

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 10:58 PM
*Ultimatum** Could you elaborate on that please?

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Fri 03/14/08 10:58 PM
hes being honest with u accept it darling

ObscureLight Joined Mon 09/24/07 Posts: 5410	Fri 03/14/08 10:58 PM
Okay there's this guy I talk to, and we get along really well. We talk every night from midnight til sunrise and it's really great. The problem is, he says he doesn't want a relationship with anyone because he's scared of commitment. Then he says he might want one, because he's lonely. Then he says how great I am and how much we have in common. So I know he likes me, I'm just wondering if it's possible that he'll like me enough to change his mind about wanting a relationship, or am I wasting my time and setting myself up for heartache? Thanks in advance. If he doesn't want the same as you I would move on but thats just me That;s all I got sorry

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 10:59 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready Thanks. I think so too.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 03/14/08 10:59 PM
I think the poor guy just isn't getting enough sleep.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 03/14/08 10:59 PM
Start as friends, a good friendship builds a good relationship. Of course this works on paper a lot better than it has ever worked for me, but give it a whirl the least you'll get is a good friend.

maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Fri 03/14/08 11:02 PM
some people who have been a lone for awhile get comfortable with that . but that ussaully happens because of bad relationships. ask him what would need to take place for him to want to be in a relationship. just thinking out loud.

ShellyinAZ Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 480	Fri 03/14/08 11:02 PM
Be friends only... let him find himself.. what's meant to be will be.

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 11:03 PM
Start as friends, a good friendship builds a good relationship. Of course this works on paper a lot better than it has ever worked for me, but give it a whirl the least you'll get is a good friend. True. I just don't want to get all attached to him and then he leaves. But I guess that's possible with everything, LOL

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Fri 03/14/08 11:03 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready Thanks. I think so too. Take it slow my foot..If you want a relationship with him..tell him so..If he ain't ready he needs to stop wasting your time when you could be with someone that KNOWS what they want!

ClarkKalElKent Joined Sun 02/24/08 Posts: 155	Fri 03/14/08 11:04 PM
Do we (men) ever know what we really want? Especially in the beginning, let it build......or.....not!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 03/14/08 11:04 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready Thanks. I think so too. Take it slow my foot..If you want a relationship with him..tell him so..If he ain't ready he needs to stop wasting your time when you could be with someone that KNOWS what they want! Yeah because there are so many great guys out there!

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 11:04 PM
some people who have been a lone for awhile get comfortable with that . but that ussaully happens because of bad relationships. ask him what would need to take place for him to want to be in a relationship. just thinking out loud. Oh, that's a good idea, I think I will ask him that. Thank you!!!

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 03/14/08 11:05 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready Thanks. I think so too. Take it slow my foot..If you want a relationship with him..tell him so..If he ain't ready he needs to stop wasting your time when you could be with someone that KNOWS what they want! Kind of impatient? Would you really skip out on the possibility of finding the love of your life because you wanted a relationship now and not later?

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Fri 03/14/08 11:05 PM
take it slowly. at least he's honest about being scared. you can't change him. when he's ready....he's ready Thanks. I think so too. Take it slow my foot..If you want a relationship with him..tell him so..If he ain't ready he needs to stop wasting your time when you could be with someone that KNOWS what they want! Yeah because there are so many great guys out there! There are?..where?..point one out for ME please!

katydid34 Joined Mon 08/20/07 Posts: 659	Fri 03/14/08 11:07 PM
Yeah because there are so many great guys out there! LOL, exactly!!! He's really awesome. Most men I meet I don't connect with them the way I have with him. I think I will just take it slow and see what happens.