yes you can take care of it yourself so can we but wouldnt it be better if you had a real person in your life? Like oldsage said you can only be used if you let yourself be used and that works both ways men get used too. NSA sex isnt for me but Im not knocking it if other consenting adults like it.

I have to agree with your opinion. hi5^

That is always my hang up, to teeth or not to teeth!!!

my vote is to teeth. it makes the smile better.

so if someone lies to me it is my fault for trusting? By that theory you would go through life trusting no one. It's not fair if someone takes advantage of your trust for their own selfish purposes.

I am not knocking anything other people do. I don't really care what other people do, or haven't you noticed that about me yet? I am saying that I would rather be alone than settle for some meaningless encounter with someone who doesn't give a crap about me. It's just not worth my time.

Thats your choice but your missing the point its only meaningless to you others do it all the time and they enjoy it.they do care about each other even if its for a few minutes.im with you i will pass on NSA sex but that doesnt make it meaningless to everyone. cant you see your passing judgement on others?

Moman - I don't know how to make it more clear to you. I dont' care what anyone else does. Are you telling me that if I make a choice for MY OWN life it somehow means I am passing judgement on someone else. Who am I judging? Am I supposed to have sex with any guy who asks so you won't think I am judging someone else? No where in any of my posts did I say anything about anyone else. I AM allowed to set my own standard of behavior for my own life, I think. Or am I wrong?

If it's not meaningless to others then they should go ahead and do it.I dont' care what other people do. Why should I?

Hickerchick there is no doubt in my mind what your saying by useing the word meaningless to describe NSA sex. Thats your opinion and you can say,do or think what ever you want. Im just taking the position whats meaningless to you isnt meaningless for everyone.would you say to a gay or lesbian couple they were having meaningless sex if you didnt like that kind of sex? sex is sex your passing judgement on others by useing the word meaningless becasue its not your style. Excuse me for thinking about other peoples feelings they might not be so willing to stand up for themselfs.

Well, I'm with hickerchick on this one...who wants to be with someone just for sex. Many more important things in life

Ok, I have a question. What am I missing -- is it here and I'm not seeing it? What is NSA sex??

Im with you and hickerchick on this one too the only place I disagree is calling it meaningless. what ever two consenting adults do is ok with me and I wouldnt pass judgement on them by calling what they had as meaningless. I guess Im from the 60s think different than other.

NSA sex = No Strings Attached. That could mean for what ever reason you just wanted a sexual encounter. I could think of many reasons and they wouldnt be meaningless if both people seeked the same thing.

Thannk you, Mo.

Thanks for asking that question, Summer. I thought there was some new kind of sex that I had not tried, yet. It might have something to do with animals. I better let someone else ask first.

Worse would be the false starts and stops. You put your feelers out there and this seems interesting. Feel like maybe there might be something to this one. Think you are reading the signals right. I mean what else could it be. Now its on; Now its off. Hmmm. Well it was interesting for a little while.

Best would be well maybe its still ok to be single. Others have survived being single longer than I have. Maybe I am not the only one afraid of dating. Hmmm. Those false starts and stops are fun, too. Maybe it is like Jane Curtain said to her daughter on Saturday Night Live about periods being a blessing and a curse.

But I am not saying it's meaningless to them. I can only talk about myself. I dont care what anyone else does. More power to them. The only person whose feelings I can speculate on are my own. I don't live in someone elses head.


Do you understand the concept of I statements? I am saying "I feel this way about MY life". There is no judgement of anyone else express or implied. So what you are saying is that if I say how I feel about something, it is an insult to everyone who doesn't feel the same way.

If I say I don't like ham salad, is that a slam on everyone who does like it? Geeze Moman.

I am not saying NSA sex is meaningless to other people. I don't live in their heads. Have I no right to feel that it brings no meaning to me?

I don't believe in NSA sex. To me it's always had strings attached. I think the Lord meant sex to enhance a marriage relationship or relationships period. That's why sex outside marriage is so "dangerous" it creates a relationship where sometimes none should exist.

It's either that or sex at the National Security Agency, eh?

And I tell you that to tell you this: I'm the "best" of over 50, and I'm the worst.

Geo.