Topic: pursued vs. stalked | |
---|---|
There is a fine line between being pursued and stalked. With that said
how early is too early to realize that you are going out with someone that is just way too “into” you at such an early juncture in the relationship (to the point where it just makes you uncomfortable)? And how do you deal with it? |
|
|
|
Darn sluggo, I was with someone that I thought would do that and they
did the exact opposite. We talk, but not very much now. I thought at the early stages she was hooked, line & sinker. Could have been something I said,(no doubt). But be careful in what you say if you have any intentions to pursue the relationship. I might have been a little harsh, but 2 dates to me does not constitute making big change choices in your life or future with someone. Hell, I'm probably giving you the worst advice, but someone will have something for you or a combination of everything said might help?? |
|
|
|
I actually had some chic ask me to marry her after a week of being with
her. She was Super Hot but I was still like "WTF"! I just tried to slow it down abut a few days later she asked me to move in with her (it had to be the Drugs she was on). It only lasted about 6 weeks, what a roller coaster..lol |
|
|
|
Slug...sometimes a person like her, could be ''just high''...but there
are times when a person knows what they want and takes the dare, if you will...been there, done that...life seems so short, to some people, and they want to ''jump''//////I believe that you have done the right thing....she is too good for you! LMAOFOTF!/////{TEASE} |
|
|
|
I have found myself in that situation a time or two, Sluggo, and seems
each time had to handle it according to the personality type I was dealing with. Guys seem to think I am a great catch in the beginning. I try to encourage them to give it a couple of weeks so they can know the REAL me. Then they can run like hell!! LOL |
|
|
|
Well I would say right after YOU find the note on YOUR door that reads,
IF I CAN'T HAVE YOU NOBODY WILL!!!!!! AND then signed by HER!!!!! LMFAO...That would make me alarmed! |
|
|
|
Scary...
|
|
|
|
Welll Slug what did you do? LMAO
|
|
|
|
Its easy to tell the difference in persuing and stalking, persuing he
isn't around ALL the time and is sweet when he is.Stalking, hes around ALL the time, constant phone calls, following you, knowing your every move, even breaking into your home and going through your things, not enough for anyon else to notice but just enough for you to notice that your things have been slightly tampered with. |
|
|
|
well I'd say if your are happy with the way things are going, (phone
calls, time you share, the situation in whole), then it's persuing, if your uncomfortable, and you've made it clear, but nothing changes or changes too little, then make yourself dump the person. |
|
|
|
-make yourself lol
|
|
|
|
i have to agree with Mike....
if you're happy with what ya have, then do nothing, it's persueing, if you're uncomfortable, and you've mentioned it, if nothing changes, dump 'em the key is, you HAVE to say something about it...communication is everything |
|
|
|
you just drop that person like a bad habit!!!!lmao!!
|
|
|
|
I've had a stalker this is how I know what they do, though it is beyond
me why anyone would wanna stalk me, I am so uber boring lol and I am really not all that exciting much less to be desired to the point of stalking. |
|
|
|
I've never had a stalker... thank goodness
|
|
|
|
I did, and the only way I got him to stop, what bringing him in the open
forum... and my friends here helped me with that little problem lmao!!! |
|
|
|
Dude, did you sleep with her on the first date.....that,s always
a bell ringer.... it happens a lot....but its your fault, so roll with it....otherwise, dump her.....how hard can it be...1 |
|
|
|
Stalking vs pursued, sounds too real. I guess we should know better.
Glands take over and usaully win out. |
|
|
|
There goes the Bear looking at it from the Shallow end of the swimming
pool. Of course it's pretty easy for a Guy to say who cares and just cut off someone that they view as a Stalker: What about woman though? Gentlemen are taught to pursue and obviously some guys don’t do it well and come off as Stalkers because they seem to over pursue. It seems to me that the women that judge incorrectly are the women that tend to fall for a guy that treats them like crap (So cheer up Ontario, these are the women you can focus on). So women, where is the line drawn at? |
|
|
|
DAMN SLUGGO!!!
I THOUGHT I WAS BEING PRETTY SLY!! HIDING BEHIND THINGS! hhmmmm *heavy sign* |
|
|