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Topic: pursued vs. stalked
Sluggo's photo
Wed 12/27/06 11:04 PM
There is a fine line between being pursued and stalked. With that said
how early is too early to realize that you are going out with someone
that is just way too “into” you at such an early juncture in the
relationship (to the point where it just makes you uncomfortable)? And
how do you deal with it?

Nervesgone's photo
Wed 12/27/06 11:12 PM
Darn sluggo, I was with someone that I thought would do that and they
did the exact opposite. We talk, but not very much now. I thought at the
early stages she was hooked, line & sinker. Could have been something I
said,(no doubt). But be careful in what you say if you have any
intentions to pursue the relationship. I might have been a little harsh,
but 2 dates to me does not constitute making big change choices in your
life or future with someone. Hell, I'm probably giving you the worst
advice, but someone will have something for you or a combination of
everything said might help??

Sluggo's photo
Wed 12/27/06 11:24 PM
I actually had some chic ask me to marry her after a week of being with
her. She was Super Hot but I was still like "WTF"! I just tried to slow
it down abut a few days later she asked me to move in with her (it had
to be the Drugs she was on). It only lasted about 6 weeks, what a roller
coaster..lol

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Wed 12/27/06 11:33 PM
Slug...sometimes a person like her, could be ''just high''...but there
are times when a person knows what they want and takes the dare, if you
will...been there, done that...life seems so short, to some people, and
they want to ''jump''//////I believe that you have done the right
thing....she is too good for you! LMAOFOTF!/////{TEASE}

lily38's photo
Fri 12/29/06 04:57 AM
I have found myself in that situation a time or two, Sluggo, and seems
each time had to handle it according to the personality type I was
dealing with. Guys seem to think I am a great catch in the beginning. I
try to encourage them to give it a couple of weeks so they can know the
REAL me. Then they can run like hell!! LOL

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 05:18 AM
Well I would say right after YOU find the note on YOUR door that reads,
IF I CAN'T HAVE YOU NOBODY WILL!!!!!!

AND then signed by HER!!!!! LMFAO...That would make me alarmed!

simplykim's photo
Fri 12/29/06 05:30 AM
Scary...

TheShadow's photo
Fri 12/29/06 05:45 AM
Welll Slug what did you do? LMAO

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 06:23 AM
Its easy to tell the difference in persuing and stalking, persuing he
isn't around ALL the time and is sweet when he is.Stalking, hes around
ALL the time, constant phone calls, following you, knowing your every
move, even breaking into your home and going through your things, not
enough for anyon else to notice but just enough for you to notice that
your things have been slightly tampered with.

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 08:06 AM
well I'd say if your are happy with the way things are going, (phone
calls, time you share, the situation in whole), then it's persuing, if
your uncomfortable, and you've made it clear, but nothing changes or
changes too little, then make yourself dump the person.

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 08:06 AM
-make yourself lol

ellgee1976's photo
Fri 12/29/06 09:39 AM
i have to agree with Mike....

if you're happy with what ya have, then do nothing, it's persueing,

if you're uncomfortable, and you've mentioned it, if nothing changes,
dump 'em

the key is, you HAVE to say something about it...communication is
everything

Morena350's photo
Fri 12/29/06 10:24 AM
you just drop that person like a bad habit!!!!lmao!!

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 10:34 AM
I've had a stalker this is how I know what they do, though it is beyond
me why anyone would wanna stalk me, I am so uber boring lol and I am
really not all that exciting much less to be desired to the point of
stalking.

Tneal's photo
Fri 12/29/06 11:08 AM
I've never had a stalker... thank goodness

Morena350's photo
Fri 12/29/06 11:23 AM
I did, and the only way I got him to stop, what bringing him in the open
forum...
and my friends here helped me with that little problem
lmao!!!

no photo
Fri 12/29/06 11:34 AM
Dude, did you sleep with her on the first date.....that,s always
a bell ringer.... it happens a lot....but its your fault, so roll with
it....otherwise, dump her.....how hard can it be...1

chopperdan's photo
Fri 12/29/06 12:33 PM
Stalking vs pursued, sounds too real. I guess we should know better.
Glands take over and usaully win out.

Sluggo's photo
Sun 12/31/06 01:41 PM
There goes the Bear looking at it from the Shallow end of the swimming
pool. Of course it's pretty easy for a Guy to say who cares and just cut
off someone that they view as a Stalker: What about woman though?

Gentlemen are taught to pursue and obviously some guys don’t do it well
and come off as Stalkers because they seem to over pursue. It seems to
me that the women that judge incorrectly are the women that tend to fall
for a guy that treats them like crap (So cheer up Ontario, these are the
women you can focus on).

So women, where is the line drawn at?

catchme_ifucan's photo
Sun 12/31/06 01:57 PM
DAMN SLUGGO!!!

I THOUGHT I WAS BEING PRETTY SLY!!

HIDING BEHIND THINGS! hhmmmm *heavy sign*

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