All joking aside...

The definition of 'love' and marraige, as can be interpreted by scripture, is quite vast, and spans the entire spectrum of understanding...

So, it would be a good thing to 'live in sin'?

Jess

to you and yours!!!

Divorce is big business.

There is money in it

trust me

OK, I agree. The 'club' has some members in not so good standing. rabble running the store, eh?

America is consistent then, don't you think? I do

I have no clue why divorce is so rampant. I see statistics from time to time that show the whole of society in the US being lockstep with 'cutting and running' since the time of my parents generation.

My own mother considered divorce once and my father told me of her inclination with tears in his usually unemotional eyes. Mr. Perfect was about to be made imperfectly wrenched.
It seems she wanted a bigger house and nicer things and wasn't getting her way.
I rattled her cage, for what it's worth. They stayed married and now in their late seventies have each other to bicker with 24/7 if they choose, but they have learned not to.

Same with all of their friends. Peer pressure? Societal high browing? pride? image? shame? could it be just love holds two together for only certain generations? Who really knows?

Where my family history and my parents are concerned, only my father and his sister have remained married to their high school sweethearts. My only sister and only one of my brothers has managed to keep their marriages intact. The rest of the family through the generations has not been so inclined. They are not all Christians, by the way. Interesting.


These days, it seems that compatibility may only be found in like minded friends found somewhere distant on the globe.

SUch as it is in JSH land.....

I hope you and Kharma find the beauty and magic together.

I really do!

So true.

In fact, if you need an instruction manual you really aren't ready for it.

My husband died Jesse. I cannot speak for others.

I can guess, they have not left some of the old nature behind.
No one is perfect.

"The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak".

One is not ready for that kind of committment until completely whole in oneself.

because christians aren't perfect any more than any other religion. In a perfect world I think we all would like to not get divorced. Problem is that people do change sometimes in a marriage and differences can't always be worked out.

I'm a christian but divorced. I couldn't live with a man that I fight with all the time or that changed...just like I wouldn't expect a man to stay with me if I did that

So why are there so many single Christians???

It seems you guys have a mud map on getting it right....

How come it doesn't?




Again...christians aren't perfect and this isn't a perfect world. Who said christians have a mud map on getting it right. we are human like any other and we make mistakes and have our faults as well

Hello everybody!

What I would like to know is who invented marriage?

Was it created for tax purposes in medieval times??

Who can actually really find the source of this and educate me on it?

The only thing that I'm sure of with absolute certainty is that there is no single answer to this. Cultures from all over the world had mating rituals. I think most people have an innate sense of monogamy when it comes to love (though certainly not all). Also from a civilization point of view it makes sense to form family units that are responsible for raising their young.

Of course, I’m sure that you’ll also find a biblical account of marriage, but clearly that wasn’t a world-wide view.

Personally, I’ve always been both monogamous-minded, and family-oriented innately. This is one of those “who I am” things that transcends any teachings, beliefs, or experiences. But all people are not like this to be sure!

Some answers I got through email about who invented marriage. I thought it would be funny to share.

1. Marriage was created by people wanting to spend their entire lives together, yet were unable to make it past twenty without being eaten by dinosaurs.

2. The guys who wrote the bible and if I ever get my hands on them I'm gonna strangle them. I hate being married!!

3. Had to be a women that is all I know.
NO guy would ever come up with the idea of living together as one and when it don't work out giving up half his ****

4. obviously a man. marriage only benefits a man. someone cooks, cleans and takes care of them and there children. what does a woman get out of it??? i do everything myself anyway.

Just for laughs not to be taken seriously. thanks

5. Marriage was invented by divorce lawyers.

dang...I was writing them down

Y'all hit a nerve with me.

At one time I thought that man being dominant and in charge stuff was the way to go. Boy, was I ever wrong. After being married 30 of my 50 years and losing one marriage to divorce and one to death, I'll tell you what I've learned.

Treat a woman with respect and she will treat you likewise, if you're lucky. Not having much luck here on JSH, but what the hey. What to do about that comes later in my post.

A man and a woman in a relationship should both be submitted to God, I think. A man needs to be a spiritual leader in a relationship, but a woman contributes just as much if not more so. In a vacuum, though, the man needs to step up to the plate and, indeed, is charged to do so by the Lord.

A man and a woman in a relationship are both submitted to each other. They need to find each other's style and accommodate themselves to it. Does the woman like getting cards? Get her cards. Does she want your time? Give her your time. Presents? Check. Affection? Whatever.

A man and woman should not withhold from each other unless by mutual agreement. Don't withhold affection or communication for whatever reason unless by mutual agreement.

If communication's broke off, you got no relationship. I've found that over and over again on JSH. people'll talk for a while and drop off. That's cool. I got time and I got other things to do. If you can go with being submitted to God and each other, being mutually affectionate and staying respectful best friends, you can make it. If not, you have a few strikes against you before you even start.

Satan hates marriages and families. He'll do whatever he can to tear us apart. Stay in the word, go to church, take communion. You got to stay on top of things to win the fight.

Good luck and god bless you all. And you can try to help people all you want in a troubled relationship but unless they're ready to help themselves, too, it ain't gonna work.