Hi!I am new to this and I am hoping to find some good advice. How do you
know when to trust someone and believe them in things that they say???
Especially when they say all the right things at the right time and then
they pull the rug right out from under you??
I am so tired of having that done I am just hoping someone can help me
to understand what signs to look for in people to know you can trust
them.
Are honest people just gone. I have read many of your post and we all
seem to be hoping for the samething?? If we are then why haven't any of
us found it??
I am sorry but I could really use some helpful words or guidance.
Thank you for reading.

2002.. it takes time and ya can pretty much tell what a person is
looking 4. if not just be blunt and ask...

Thank you 4 fun. Even when I have done that they lead you on and the
same always seems to happen. i feel like I have gullible stamped across
my head where others can see it except for me. LOL

trust only in you...
follow your own prosses,
and look for the signs of a bad person.
Then put your trust in God...

does this help?

true that mike

Well, trust will have to be earned for me. I have put my whole life in
the hands of one I trusted to be shot down. I think a lot of us divorced
people have basically that same issue. I for one am not a very smooth
talker, in fact when I usually open my mouth is when I should have kept
it closed. But I would be very cautious if he says everything you want
to hear because sounds like to me he has had lots of practice. Make them
earn trust. Usually if you think, think very hard!

ya never no over the net...people can hind behind the PC..it is crazy
and what is the point of getting on a dating site if u gonna put up a
front.. but yeah just becareful when meeting...whena and IF it
happens... but good luck i hope u find what u are looking for!
~~SHERRIE~~

Usually if you think, think very hard!

Usually if you think *somethings amess*, think very hard!

Hi sherrie, good to see ya!!

Hi Jenn,
JMO I don't ask questions, because people tell you their delution of
themselves. i read between the words,

most importantly!! I listen, I listen to they things they say, the way
they react to others, the lil coments about things.
their instant reactions. how they've handle differnt things.

Just like reading some ones profile its their delution of themself.
just dont jump in with both feet & if they do run!!!
If "I LOVE YOU!!" is said any time soon run!!
&&& people that tend to carry on about family or relationships are
usaully tryin to convince themself's about how rightous they are...
another Quack!!!
So if you go in just looking for friends then work from there your
alot safer & if your just coming to post now you been playin in the
meat market guys too long..
Good luck to you ! come post, there is nice guys in here..

Thank you all, and yes they do hide behind the PC Sherrie and I have
been burned a time or two by those that do. Italmost makes you want to
give up. And Nerves that is why I divorced myself was the whole trust
issue. But when you have been alone it is so easy tofall into the trap
of "wow he is everything I was hoping for." And you are right Michael,
and I do try to put all my trust in God sometimes I just jump the gun a
little and do not listen to all he has to say. Thank you all again. I
really do appreciate your advice.

Thank you catchme you make alot of sense and I ahve had a few say " I
love you " in the early stages. I just have to knos to trust myself that
it is not real no matter how bad I want it to be. Thank you.

Anytime jen, and good to see you post, WELCOME!!
Mike

usally if it's to good to be true it uasly is.
and if thay say everything you wana hear keep both eyes on them. listen
to your instact (wow i'm i ever a bad speller lol)but i'm getting better
at typing i'm up to 9 words minute lol

Thank you Mike. I like reading all the post and hoped you all could help
me and you have.

Thank you horseracer and you are right, but I am ever so hopeful. LOL
By the way that is a very pretty paint you have there.

yea if you just post more often you can even see in here who's players
& who's not. & we all get hurt, that part of life just dont let them
take you for a ride to do it!

thank you thats one of my favorits

I really hate to say this and I will probably get bashed for it, no
biggie though. Been through worse. But I have known smooth talkers and
they are smoooooth. They will tell you everything you think you want to
hear, but here goes the big bash comment. ALL GUYS are jerks, it is just
a tollerance level that each woman has to be able to put up with us.
There, I said it so go for guys!!! I have been a man for half a century
though, so I feel like I have known a few in my days!!

Sadly I have been on more of those rides than I want to admit. But you
guys are great and very good with the advice and I will keep all ofthat
in mind as I talk to anyone in the future. Maybe you all could feel them
out for me after I meet them. LOLI need all the help I can get.