OK...I keep letting the ex fiance get to me. My only crime to him was to try to get him to talk to me about the problems he was having...and there was alot of stress.
He was a very good friend for a year before we dated and now he has been cold and hateful to me for caring. Now he won't talk to me. Sad thing is - he got me on here when we were friends and he's back on here too.

He isn't used to people caring about him, so I guess I scared him.

I kow I should say F him but I can't when I've always cared about him even as a friend

u got to stop caring save it for someone who deserves it

so,just keep bieng his distant friend.
maybe,ask him if he still wants to be friends........

ok....how???

HE asked me to marry him...HE wanted me to move in. I didn't move in. Then because of stress he did a 180 on me

u need to give him an ultimatum

he won't even talk to me...i've tried. even tried helping him find a new job

There are alot of guys who'd like a shot at you pretty woman

its hard i know start just keeping busy make new friends reconnect with old ones

"He isn't used to people caring about him, so I guess I scared him."

With all due respect, are you trying to care about him or save him? If it's the latter, you can't save someone unless they want to be saved. OR You can't be thier savior unless they want you to be.

dont make excuses for him being so uncaring towards u

do your best to move on. Try to meet someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.

I've had guys get mad at me for caring as well..I don't freakin get that..I remember a few times right after 9/11..I had made plans with guys to come see me but after that I told them just stay home for awhile cuz I just don't feel that meeting someone is so urgent that you have to risk your life to do it..and I don't want it in my mind and heart that something happened to somebody cuz they were on their way to meet me..Oh well..their loss..not mine!

You might consider letting yourself go of him. You need to take care of yourself first and not spend so much of your energie's hitting a brick wall. Maybe in time he'll come around to be your friend again. If so, he will when he is able to.

((((Rose))))

Yellowrose,

Don't give him an ultimatum. It will work against you. Want me to come by and kick his butt? That is what he needs. If a woman cared for me as much as you care for him I wouldn't be on this site. I don't think any woman has cared for me that much. But if he is treating you that way than he just isn't ready for a woman like you. The best thing for you to do is move on.

you guys make it sound so easy. how do you stop caring?

It's nice to have some one that cares about you etc. I can't recall any body or one caring about me but that's just me.

It's to bad this guy won't speak to you any more because you are caring to much about him and even wanting and or offering him help with his life etc.

funny...all he had to do was talk to me and i could either be there for him or leave. all he had to do was be open and honest

You don't stop caring. You just find something else to do to take up your time.

Yup..listen to him..hes right