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Topic: Advice/Insight from Guys
WAM's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:52 PM
I've been "talking" to some matches thru email (this site and other paid one). After corresponding for some time (1-2 months) when I broach the topic of talking or meeting, the communication comes to an abrupt halt. Why? Does this imply too much of a commitment? If we were to have met in person in the first place we may have already exchanged phone numbers or arranged another date. Is there some unwritten rule I violate when asking for a more personal sort of contact?

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Thu 02/28/08 07:53 PM
because they are mental midgets!!!laugh

mry's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:54 PM
Sometimes I think some guys just want to talk on here...it must just fill a void for some...

chickayoshi's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:55 PM
They enjoy the website communication, but they don't seem to be interested in going the next step further. Maybe they aren't interested at all. You will find some guys like that though. Sad. glasses

Cambolaya65's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:56 PM
they are married

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Thu 02/28/08 07:56 PM
1-2 months???? Weird... I don't know if I've ever known anyone to take that long to make a coffee house connection or something...

might wanna add a blurb or make it known up front that you aren't looking for a pen pal... flowerforyou

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:56 PM
flowerforyou Happens all the timeflowerforyou

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Thu 02/28/08 07:57 PM
Or it's a case of having courage behind a computer screen, and not in the real world. It's one thing to hold a conversation online. It's another to hold one in person. Too many people these days are scared, and of nothing.

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Thu 02/28/08 07:58 PM
because they havent got their penile implants yet!!!noway laugh

mssilverfox's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:58 PM

they are married






right on glasses glasses

shoes4rhon's photo
Thu 02/28/08 07:59 PM

they are married


true dat

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Thu 02/28/08 08:02 PM
Haha okay i'll join the club grumble . They are married.

WAM's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:05 PM
Thanks for the replies. So many, so quickly!

I'm thinking of starting another thread about how it seems that with so many options out there with online dating that people tend to dismiss what might be an "adequate" match in the hopes of finding a "perfect" match eventually. What do you think?

hikerchick's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:08 PM
I think you should start any thread you want to start. If people find it interesting, you will know right away.

hikerchick's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:10 PM
OH, and for your first question. I am never in a hurry to meet people. I like to talk to them for a good long time to get to know them before I take time out of my life. I am a busy chick.

mry's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:10 PM
I heard Dr. Phill just had a show on about this couple that emailed and never met in 3 years. They tracked him down and he I guess he was married.

hikerchick's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:15 PM
there are some people I just enjoy e-mailing with. I don't need to meet them.

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Thu 02/28/08 08:18 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 02/28/08 08:18 PM
If they are local to you and not too much planning involved I'd say cut the correspondence time way down. And just go for it.

hikerchick's photo
Thu 02/28/08 08:19 PM

If they are local to you and not too much planning involved I'd say cut the correspondence time way down. And just go for it.


been there, done that - huge waste of my time.

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Thu 02/28/08 08:21 PM
Edited by Unknow on Thu 02/28/08 08:21 PM


If they are local to you and not too much planning involved I'd say cut the correspondence time way down. And just go for it.


been there, done that - huge waste of my time.


And how is spending a month or two of corresponding only to have nothing to show for it, not a waste of your time???? huh huh huh huh huh huh huh I'm no genius but it seems to me that wasting a week is better than wasting two months, no???? Or am I missing something??

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