I know this is an overdone topic, but as I have read many posts on here and many articles and stuff about it I have noticed one thing. Women always say that they want to find a nice guy but there are not any out there that aren't married, or there are only .0000001% nice guys and they are impossible to find. Well sorry to burst your bubble ladies the reason you can't find them is cuz you want guys to come to you all of the time. And the guys that are going to come up to you and talk to you are probably ass holes. So of coarse your not going to find them if you don't look. How stupid is that you go around saying you can't find your keys when your not looking for them it is the exact same way with guys. So if you trully want a nice guy go out and look I am a nice guy and I know many nice guys so they are out there and they are everywhere. He will probably be the one who is not sorounded by a whole bunch of other people, and he is deffinatly not the one who comes up to you and hits on you.

That's kind of closeminded to assume that the women that say that aren't looking... unless you're watching their every move and know that for certain?

No more cryin today

Well most women i talk to say that they will never make the first move. That is what I am talking about. If you want a nice guy you are going to have to make the first move, and then if a nice guy does ask you out, he might not be that confident but say yes once in a while.

I saw I nice on guy on here. I added him as my friend. Then I e-mailed him. Then I called him all the time and sent him really long e-mails... Then he flew out here to meet me.

He's still nice. And I actually did not scare him away. I admit I chased him.... could not let that one get away. I'm not sorry...


So, I agree. There are nice guys. The one I found happens to be much more than the word 'nice' could possibly indicate or describe, but 'nice' fits.

Hmmm, I'm a nice guy, but I don't make the first move alot myself

Gongrats

But thats what i am saying if you want a nice guy you have to do some of the chasing. But it will be worth it.

I am sure that you think think so lilith

I love all you people here, and when it comes to men or women, and this or that,
WE OUR ALL DIFFERENT, and the SEX, does NOT make the decision,
the PERSON makes their own decision..

Nice guys, Nice ladies, same in each and same of each..?


PEACE, LOVE, And BE REAL!

gave up being the nice guy...got tired of being a door mat and watching as the other bad boys take my women away...trust me, being nice is good for the day you are at the pearly gates door, otherwise, second never wins

nice quys are always usually shy... most of my friends are dudes so i know =D

I know I am still old fashioned, but I also know the rules have changed about who should make the first moves. Unfortunately, I am also into looks as well as personality. Guys that have appeal and are nice can be hard to find. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate on unattractive but nice guys...I like to make friends with them. I just have my personal preference on what will make me happy.

If I may quote from "The Secret"...
"You attract what you think"

It's the law of attraction....If you think you are going to get a loser then you will.....simple

WHY dont nice guys go up to you???

its them darn canadian women who make us bad...heheheh

Some might, but most are not that confident around womenfor various reasons, but they just are not

Tobias,

Many of us are looking for "nice", but that can be a very broad defintion.

The toughest part about anything on-line is most people are fakes or have some serious issues and being on-line allows them to hide in a sense, or if they spend all thier free time on-line, its not a very healthy sign.

That's why in-person is many times better than on-line in many ways. So just don't put too must trust in many people on-line until you have actually met and got to know them.

Nice is not equal to 'doormat'.

Well I was actually talking about in real life situations, i know things online are pretty different.

Me either, but last I looked I was female; guess I'm old fashioned in that.

Simply stated, there is a very fine line between a nice and a guy who's simply a pu$$y. When you begin not to cross it and learn to balance on it, the real fun begins.