well, I guess we have a mutual admiration society, then. :flowerforyou

so we do..

I'm with you on this one.

If you just wanted "friends", then just post on the forums and make them that way.

You go on dates to meet people who will (with any luck) become MORE than friends. By dating someone and then pulling that "I just want to be friends" schtick, you're showing that you in fact DON'T know what you want, and you're intent on displaying that notion by wasting the other person's time via that wasted date.

Even worse, you'll be sending them a signal that they're not desirable enough to be something more than a friend, which is about as bad as unceremoniously dumping them all together. And women are particularly bad at the self-esteem thing.

It ranks up there with going on a date with a girl, who (after a mere couple of minutes of going to the restaurant) decides to start cell-phoning her friends every other second with inane banter, text messaging, and cell-photos. Not only is it quite rude, but it's also inconsiderate to the other party.

good points, all. But then..what should the boy have done? What do you do if you go out with someone and you like them but not in that way?

What happened was is that after he met you, he just wasn't interested in you romantically. So instead of hurting your feelings, he was trying to be nice and tell you that he just wanted to be friends. From what I gather it was just one date, and he just didn't want to hurt your feelings.

Well... if the fella truly didn't have time for a girlfriend, he probably shouldn't have asked our victim out in the first place. After all, you don't go ahead and get into something you have no intention of seeing to the end, as that's just poor taste.

If you find that there's no connection after having a date, be truthful, but not blunt. Any person mature enough to deal with rejection will understand, if it's done in a respectful manner.

Or you can lie to the other person and tell him/her that you're going to Uganda on a World Wildlife Fund crusade to save the horned speckled housecat from extinction and won't be back in town for years. If you can't tell them the truth, dazzle them with your bull-honkey, that's what I always say.

i personally think its more than reasonable for him to say that he doesnt have time for a relationship right now... im a full time student and there really isnt much time outside of being in class... try holding down a job and being in a well functioning relationship on top of that... not the easiest...

Thats true too

true. He should have been honest from the start. But I suspect he was trying to let her down easy. Haven't you ever liked someone enough to want to remain friends, but not feel any romantic leanings? Is that so bad?