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Topic: guys i need your help
Woodrow Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 212	Fri 02/22/08 05:41 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta)

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 02/22/08 05:42 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months which was better? I'm thinkin maybe the bar. A person can describe themselves pretty much how they would like to be, But after a Pitcher of Jack & Coke the real thing magically seems to appear. and after two, she looks like whatever you want her to look like

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 02/22/08 05:42 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta) a person who has been abused can't be a good person?

Troubled Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 295	Fri 02/22/08 05:42 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months which was better? I'm thinkin maybe the bar. A person can describe themselves pretty much how they would like to be, But after a Pitcher of Jack & Coke the real thing magically seems to appear.

Woodrow Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 212	Fri 02/22/08 05:45 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta) a person who has been abused can't be a good person? We can but were usally screwed up for meaningful relationships. Some of the kindest people I know, but it never goes away.

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Fri 02/22/08 05:46 PM
point at it and start laughing bet they wont do it again! Perfect! Hiker, I point at my own and start laughing!

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Fri 02/22/08 05:47 PM
i am a 46 year old women who is thankfully in pretty good shape and i have a heart of gold, sensitive, understanding and very confident. my problem is everyone of my dates have either dropped there pants and showed it off, told me everything i think they want me to hear or just asked straight out for sex, how on earth can i possibly figure out who is a respectable man because all i have is what they look like maybe i should ask questions what do you think. confused passion46 YES, ask LOTS of questions and FEEL their minds and hearts, if their just into sex, your know it.. And if their REAL, and wanting a relationship, your FEEL their heart and learn to see each other as friends first and NOT just sex first...lol Me personally I have NEVER dropped my pants on the first date,,,thats on like the second or third.. BUT ONLY AT WALMART,,,,on a weekend day,,,lol And fake people find it HARD to stay WHO they tell ya they are... GOOD LUCK, and good dudes are out here....

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 02/22/08 05:48 PM
point at it and start laughing bet they wont do it again! Perfect! Hiker, I point at my own and start laughing! Oh honey, I am sure you do it all the time!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 02/22/08 05:50 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta) a person who has been abused can't be a good person? We can but were usally screwed up for meaningful relationships. Some of the kindest people I know, but it never goes away. there is a lot of truth to that ..I had things happen when I was young too..but someone told me that just because I was put on the potty backwards when I was three doesn't mean I can turn my ass around now. Your past does not have to be your destiny.

Woodrow Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 212	Fri 02/22/08 05:57 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta) a person who has been abused can't be a good person? We can but were usally screwed up for meaningful relationships. Some of the kindest people I know, but it never goes away. there is a lot of truth to that ..I had things happen when I was young too..but someone told me that just because I was put on the potty backwards when I was three doesn't mean I can turn my ass around now. Your past does not have to be your destiny. your right it doen't, I been prety good about not letting it out, sometimes you just cant get over/through things

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 02/22/08 06:00 PM
Most people on these dating sites are just looking for sex. I'm starting to think a bar is better for a meaningful relationship, even just a friend. Took 30 years to get tired of the bar scene, This is starting to get old after 3 months I think part of the problem is that people are selecting potential dates on the basis of photos rather than say, common interests. If you block the photos out of your mind and read the essays, you may find that there are plenty of quality people here. They are just not necessarily HOTT. It really depends on what you are looking for. If you are picking them based strictly on visual appeal, then you are falling into the traps of the ones who only want that kind of attention. Look for the more subtle ones. Slim pickens around here, ones that are not screwed by abuse- its oregon(highest % of child abuse in country-per capta) a person who has been abused can't be a good person? We can but were usally screwed up for meaningful relationships. Some of the kindest people I know, but it never goes away. there is a lot of truth to that ..I had things happen when I was young too..but someone told me that just because I was put on the potty backwards when I was three doesn't mean I can turn my ass around now. Your past does not have to be your destiny. your right it doen't, I been prety good about not letting it out, sometimes you just cant get over/through things letting it out is appropriate..but letting it ruin the rest of your life..well, it's just too sad. You just can't let that happen. And maybe you never really get over things but you learn to live as if you have.