How come it seems that with some guys, 'just friends' doesn't seem to work with them.. It's like, all or nothing.

Theres this one guy that is really sweet, and we've hungout a few times and such.. but then he's like, well, do you think we could try a relationship.. and I told him it'd be easier to just remain as friends and such, because of what I'm going through, and because I am a bit too busy to dedicate myself to someone that is a 40 minute drive away.

I know 40 minutes isn't too bad, like.. the drive doesn't bother me.. but I am the only one of the two of us that does drive, so I'll always being the one making that drive and like.. between work, school and volunteering .. I just can't find the time.

but he said to me.
"I really like being around you.. You're so much fun and just a beautiful girl. Do you think we could work things out between us so that we could try a relationship, because I really like you."

and I told him no, and explained why.. and he said.

"Well, I want more than just friends.. I can't deal with being just friends with you."

looks like a no win situation....dont feel guilty and do something you dont want to

Say goodbye to my leeeeetllee freind!

better that u r honest

I'll be your Friend

I do a rotten al pacino

Well it could be worse. I just want you for sex.

just walk away... he's already pressuring you into doing something you told him you're not ready for or able to do.

one way to look at it is Your not his taxi

im not your friend now

I personally would think the guy is an asshole so if he can't handle staying friends for the time being then think about how he would act with other situations! I personally think that you should not associate yourself with him if he is going to act that way! A true man would understand what your going through and respect that! But hey not all men are that way so you might just want to do something you don't want to do! Either way you go I wish you the best of luck!


"ALL WOMEN DESERVE THE UP MOST RESPECT!"

why not.

you are toooo far to drive for me!!!

feelings get intense. when they are then he is merely
making a statement of fact - his reality. he is too
attracted to you physically to see you on a friends
only basis. that is too bad but extremely common for
both men and women. move on and stop seeing him - or
it will just be painful to both. try to imagine the
shoe being on the other foot - and you being attracted
irresistibly to a guy but he can only accept a friend
relationship with you.

sorry to hear about that but best of luck to both of you...

why would you want to date someone who doesn't drive anyway. Tell him to get a car and act like a grown up

A lot of my friends don't drive. He's only 19.. having a car isn't his number one priority.

and it never will be as long as people are willing to drive him around, go see him, etc. He needs to take responsibility for himself. My daughter got a car at 16. I am not going to drive someone around when they are old enough to do it themselves. I guess I don't understand why a person that age would want to be dependent on other people for transportation. To me it seems weak.

I understand where you're coming from.. but financially, a car just doesn't fit the picture right now. Once school is paid off, and his house.. then a car will be in his budget. Not everyone is blessed to have a parent will buy the car for them.. He's been on his own since he was 14.. so I can see why he doesn't have a car.. but again, that's just my opinion on things.

this isnt about driving,i choose to be friends first with women.I wanna be around them a while b4 Captain Howdy pops out!

Oh I see. It's a financial thing. Just for the record, though, I didn't buy my daughter a car. She is in high school and works two jobs.