Always wondered that myself, been happenin since 70's when i was in , before that and since, It is truly distasteful, unamerican, unpatriotic and they should be snakebit,shot and hung, try not to let it get ya down dude, I know that is easier said than done. There are a few good women out there, or at least thats the rumor, cheers and hope you find one that is faithful, cause that just burns my @ss when i see it happen

that is a very cold thing to do. you go to protect and she goe to bed

oh yeah right, like Bush had anything to do with that, flush out your headgear dude and smell the coffee

Why some are unable to remain faithful is beyond me...

Thankyou for your services to this country.

I first want to thank you for a job well done, and I am sorry that has happened to you.
It has happened to me several times, so I feel your pain.
You definently deserve better, and she will eventually see that she was wrong.

Hmmmm....wives and partners aren't pets... to be abandoned whilst you are out playing GI Joe...

You dont get to get yourself a woman, then abandon her to go play wars, and expect her to sit there staring at the wall till you come home...

Besides, in the fast food instant gratification culture of the american mr and mrs joe average...who has time to wait anymore..

Also, swap places, and BE HONEST... like you would sit at home and knit if that was your woman, off playing wars for months on end...? I suspect the answer is..... NOT.

Quite correct that wives and partners aren't pets. But when married to someone who wears a uniform you also accept the fact that they may just get called for duty for months.



3 Tours!! How many of those did you volonteer for? Leaving to do your assigned duty I can understand but if you volonteered for more tours then you caused some stress in there.

3 times?!?!? That is just plain awful. But at least you're still willing to try.

And since I'm finding I have an opinion about everything.....here's an idea. Though maybe not a good one.


Find a woman with a highly independent streak. That way by the time you're done touring she'll be more used to you being around, but in the meantime she'll most likely just be excited not to have someone hanging on her all the time, so you'll be even more precious. (still someone that you're compatible with, of course)

Okay. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I would like to put myself as far away as possible from this one. It's called commitment. If you truly care about someone, and that's the choice they've made, regardless whether or not you approve, you support them.

There is just so much there that.....yep. nm. moving on

And I am entitled to my opinion, as controversial as it may appear...

Tell me, who supports the woman emotionally while hubby is off playing GI Joe?

Who holds her? Hugs her when she is down? Who shows her the same respect as this whole crapola mindset that because you are a soldier you are now a god, whilst family can just suck it up for a year, or so, till the returning hero arrives?

There are always two sides to the story?

Who knows if this guy is a violent wife beater, who is so screwed up with PTSD, he doesn't know his arms from his legs?

You get an OP that whines about unfaithful women... and everyone immediately tip toes because he is a soldier???

GIMME A BREAK...

He is fighting for his country and his gf should understand that. If she doesnt then she should date him. Yeah women need a shoulder or a hug or someone to fix the faucet, but thats why you have friends, or parents or siblings. People that care about you and will come to your aid. Just cuz hes a soldier doesnt mean he needs to be with a woman thats going to cheat.

""Just cuz hes a soldier doesnt mean he needs to be with a woman thats going to cheat.""

How do you get that from my post?

I am saying just cause he's a soldier doesn't mean I have to word my posts differently.. I wouldn't be authentic to me, if I had rules for soldiers and rules for mechanics... I treat everyone the same... if that was a woman whining men cheat on her when she goes away for a year at a time... I would say the same thing..

OMG Don't confuse your morals and integrity for someone that actually has some. I'm kinda thinkin the next loud sucking sound I hear will be your head coming out of where ever it is

I don't care if he's a soldier, a trucker, a pilot, or whatever. If you can't handle someone being gone, then don't date them! Yes, we are going off the assumption that all he's done wrong is go to fight a war, if he was a wife beater or something equally as heinous obviously we'd be saying good for her for leaving.

It takes a lot to date someone that's gone all the time. A lot of selflessness and understanding. That's why not many people make it. If all you're concerned about is being left behind with all your friends and family where everything is at your fingertips then it's probably not the relationship for ya. But I'd hope you were self aware enough to know that first, and then respectful and considerate enough to tell them that it's not going to work before you go and cheat on them and they find out some other way. Just what someone thousands of miles away needs to hear.

I get ya. We are all animals. Gotta eat, you gotta sleep, .... I can see where they are coming from. Being in their shoes i would probably stuggle with the issue as well. Doesn't make it right though. cheers to those who remain faithful

Is this the OMG someone is NOT playing the game, STFU moment???

Is that it?

Can't respond with intellect and unemotional, so we are wandering into angry insults???


Good luck with that..

i am sorry to hear that. and not all of us are like that. although it does give us a bad name. if i had a man who was in the military i would gladly stand beside him and respect what he does.

Actually she has morals and integrity. A very good sense of each in fact. But then I'm biased.


I have also known of troopers going out and having something on the side while deployed. This is no different than a partner at home doing it. Yet because said person is deployed it's forgiven due to distance and loneliness. Works both ways though.

Thankyou for taking the time to read where I am coming from....

I do appreciate it...

As to who sleeps with whom and when...those are supposed to be part of an agreement at the commencement of a relationship, I thought, as to how monogamy is viewed.

I can see your unemotional side but I'm still waiting for the intelect part