Okay, I have a friend, possibly one of my best, and she just recently became pregnant. Now there's this guy, who she met on the train. Recently he's been stalking her, texting her "good morning" and showing up at her job all the time. She knows that he's hitting on her, and she's really uncomfortable with it. She came up to me and talked to me about it, had me stay past closing in order to talk to her about it, and she said she's too scared to say anything to the guy. Do you think I should say something to him?

She's pregnant? Once she starts to show the guy will run the other way.. .most do. Give it time.

absolutely say something - thats what friends are for

It's really making her uncomfortable, and putting her through a lot of stress...I don't like to see her going through all of that, especially with the stress of having a baby.

I would if i were u. If hes crepin her out, the last thing a woman needs during pregnancy is stress! Get the point across, in a non-violent way and make him see that his advances are not wanted!

I wouldn't say anything directly to him, because it can really hurt the case if you interfere. My suggestion is convince her to talk to some kind of authority about it (police or maybe her boss who can request the gentleman not return during her working hours) or get her permission to tell someone about it for her. Basically, it's never a good idea to become personally involved with a potential stalker, IMO.

if she just met him on the train - how did it come to be that so much information was exchanged?

i would.. do the "as a friend" thing..


especialy if it is because she is to scared and not that she likes the guy..

He's been on the train with her for months, and before she had a boyfriend and became pregnant, he asked for her number...as a friend. And she gave it to him...as a friend. But he obviously decided it would go past that, even though she's mentioned her boyfriend to him MULTIPLE times.

Let her tell him with YOU be side her to see his reaction
and so he knows she has some friends who care.
But his intentions might just be that he's attracted to her?
And thats not stalking as HE MAY NOT KNOW it bothers her, if she has NEVER told him....
Good luck and watch over her and keep her safe.
But try and read what this dudes about before bashing his ego, if he's a sicky,,ok,,get his real name when you talk with him, have him show you some id,,,shouldn't be a problem, then at least your one up on who he is..
Then you have a name to make a report on him if he doesn't back off....

tell him to stop messing with your lady

Why did she give him her phone number anyway? Go with your friend to meet the guy and then let her tell him that she isn't interested and tell her to tell him that it is best that he doesnt contact her anymore......

Call me if you want me to beat him up.

I don't think that she's too scared, honestly. I think it's that she's too nice to come off as a jerk and tell him to get the hell away.

Whatever you do love, be careful

I would be as supportive as you could be right now. The first few months of being pregnant, she probably feels on an emotional rollercoaster. If your that good a friend to her, stand by her side and try to help her as much as you can. In the long run...she will love you for it. It is always great to have your friends...when you need them the MOST

Pssh, I only wish she was my lady, lol. Too bad she's pregnant and has a boyfriend now.

NOT getting into that. Friends is fine, too



She's always been there for me, and she knows I'll be there for her if she needs it. I'll probably end up asking her if she wants me to talk to him, or I'll have her talk to him and come with.

I will!

I think the fact that she's pregnant and has a boyfriend has nothing to do with this issue at hand.

Whether it's her or you, SOMEONE needs to tell this guy that she thinks he's being a creepy stalker and that he should lay off. In fact, it'd be better for her to tell him herself.

This guy may be failing on his part in terms of socializing properly, but your friend is also failing on her part by not doing anything direct about it besides complaining to her friends about it.

but... i wonder why i'm even saying all this crap. it's f*cking obvious as a solution, but... women have never been fans of direct communication and it seems as though they aren't fans of actually SOLVING their problems, either. These may be gross generalizations, but... ugh come on. don't even try denying that sh!t.

I love women and all the things they do - I think it's f*cking cute and even beautiful... but this is just ONE thing I always have trouble accepting as a part of the reality I live in. I just can't comprehend how anyone would refuse to progress. ugh. whatever.

But hey, if your female friend actually talks to this guy directly and tells him to back off, I'll be very impressed and inspired. The news may even change my life lol