I promise this will be the last post about him..
My so called boyfriend keeps adding people on this site. He has also done other things that have hurt me (look at previous posts). If he doesn't change now, how do I break up with him in which he may learn not to do what he is doing now to his possible future girlfriends?

chances are he will continue to do to others what he is doing to you. You can not change him only he can. Just break up with him and move on.

He sounds like his mother runs a hotel
You're a pretty lass and deserve better.

People rarely change.

Why are you waiting? Get rid of him.

Future girlfriends (If he finds any) are going to have to learn for themselves. I doubt anything you say will make him behave better with others. Stop stalling and just dump him.

question for you, "can a leopard change its stripes"
theres your answer.

You don't have to stop sharing. He sounds like he likes to hurt you. You deserve so much better, dump him, do it fast,and stick to your guns.

Good Luck!
Laurie

I am so happy I joined this site, you are all so nice. I am really thankful for your advice

Your welcome, and the people on here are great. If we can help, we will.

You can t change him, if he chose to hurt you on purpose, knowing your feelings, tell him u deserve more or tell him "be gone"

Why does he have to change? Is it that you don't trust him? Has he done anything that makes you not trust him? Is he a seeker of attention, and you feel your attention should be enough for him?

people don't change for other people, there is nothing wrong with him or you for that matter, maybe you're just not meant for each other... you should part ways.

You previously asked what you deserve in a relationship(in another post). I apologize for not seeing it and replying to it in there, but this is directly connected and I hope you do not mind I address it here.

The answer is actually remarkably simple, in my opinion.

You deserve to love the way you would love another.

You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and consideration.

You deserve to be adored, to freely give and accept adoration.

You deserve to be looked at, and feel while you're being looked at, as though you are beautiful and special in every way.

If this man is not treating you the way you yourself would treat another person, why do you deserve that?

I think you have me confused with someone else, I know what I deserve and won t settle. ;O)

few people change at all in there life but it can happen..sometimes though it takes the relaity that you will leave & be gone..make him face what he is.Or some how he has to face it in order to see it for what it really is..Just how much hurt & pain he causes..Good luck...

Chuck-- silly. My reply was to the OP... but included what you said in my response because I agreed with it. I have no doubts that you know exactly what you deserve and will not settle for less.

Don't worry about him... take care of yourself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSG4Cml7HXs



Just Kidding...Just tell him that you need to
take a break for a while and spend time with
your friends.

You deserve to have someone who is as sensitive
towards you and your feelings as you would be
to his. This is not negotiable. When it is right
there will be no question. He will always seem
to do the right thing.

Sorry to hear what is happning to you. this my not be what you want to hear but it might be what you need to hear. Anything I say I have to hear myself.

everyone is there own person and no matter how much we want or how hard we try, they will always be who they are. We can only change oueselves in what we do in our lives. The min we try to change someone els, thats when It's called control and it want work. Will end up going nuts on something we have no control over. I gave that up a looooooong time ago. If your being hurt by someone, my head is saying why stay? at the same time though. I see how you don't want to let go and hopeing he will change. Hope on this situation is hopeless unless he wants to do something about it. It starts with him. So if you don't want hurt, then do whats right for you.

definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

He's not going to change, so if you want something different you're going to have to do it on your own. Take the chance, you might end up happy.

Hey Amanda! Happy vday!
just be glad you didn't end up dating me