Topic: Trust...
curios789's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:11 PM

I figured you had to sleep sometime..I was still talking to you at what, 5 am?

congrats on giving her the boot - kiddo!

I slept from 6:00AM - 12:00PM. I just am not feeling real well right now, so I'm sorta out of it.

God, she was so f**king annoying. Thought she was cute or something. Probably some 80 year old guy trying to lay one on barely legal males. sick sick

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:12 PM


I figured you had to sleep sometime..I was still talking to you at what, 5 am?

congrats on giving her the boot - kiddo!

I slept from 6:00AM - 12:00PM. I just am not feeling real well right now, so I'm sorta out of it.

God, she was so f**king annoying. Thought she was cute or something. Probably some 80 year old guy trying to lay one on barely legal males. sick sick


she never answered my email. Never even read it. She really liked you!!!

curios789's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:15 PM
Edited by curios789 on Sun 02/10/08 09:18 PM
Eew. My type of woman does not include condescending little you-know-whats. Or people who insult my friends. :angry:

itsmetina's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:19 PM
in my experience no cant be rebuilt cause they probaly will keep doing it

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:19 PM
sooo..she won't be getting your trust?

(see, we didn't really hijack this thread. we brought it full circle)

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:20 PM
Edited by monkey694u on Sun 02/10/08 09:21 PM
Love is free and unconditional, trust is earned and comes with time. Once trust is severed why can't it be restored if love is unconditional? Only problem is that love takes two.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:22 PM

Love is free and unconditional, trust is earned and comes with time. Once trust is severed why can't it be restored if love is unconditional? Only problem is that love takes two.


Why do you actually feel a pain in your heart when it's broken?

curios789's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:23 PM

Love is free and unconditional, trust is earned and comes with time. Once trust is severed why can't it be restored if love is unconditional? Only problem is that love takes two.

Love can also be mistook for lust. And lust is not unconditional.

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:26 PM
ya, do, and have. Sometimes 4 to long. But in love it's not all me. If she will acknowledge the betrayal, show some degree of sorry, love can restore trust with time and experience. There's an old saying, "fu-- me once shame on you, fu-- me twice shame on me, fu-- me thrice you are gone forever.......LOL

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:28 PM
betrayal is expected in lust, lust is lust. Been there done that, didn't keep any partners.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:28 PM

ya, do, and have. Sometimes 4 to long. But in love it's not all me. If she will acknowledge the betrayal, show some degree of sorry, love can restore trust with time and experience. There's an old saying, "fu-- me once shame on you, fu-- me twice shame on me, fu-- me thrice you are gone forever.......LOL


Some probably don't have the same degree of unconditional.. I am one of those.. You betray me you are not in my life anymore....

curios789's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:30 PM
Ah, you misunderstand my comment, sir. Although it MAY be lust, it may be THOUGHT to be love, in which you don't expect betrayal. You develop the notion of trust. And that is where the trust is broken. Although you may think it is love still, if it is truly not, then the trust cannot be rebuilt.

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:31 PM


ya, do, and have. Sometimes 4 to long. But in love it's not all me. If she will acknowledge the betrayal, show some degree of sorry, love can restore trust with time and experience. There's an old saying, "fu-- me once shame on you, fu-- me twice shame on me, fu-- me thrice you are gone forever.......LOL


Some probably don't have the same degree of unconditional.. I am one of those.. You betray me you are not in my life anymore....


I swear I didn't know it was your furniture I was selling. I thought I was sending it to be cleaned.sad sad

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:32 PM

Ah, you misunderstand my comment, sir. Although it MAY be lust, it may be THOUGHT to be love, in which you don't expect betrayal. You develop the notion of trust. And that is where the trust is broken. Although you may think it is love still, if it is truly not, then the trust cannot be rebuilt.


I always get those two L words mixed up

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:38 PM
IndnPrncs, I do believe that love is a condition that requuires sacrifice on both parts. Actually if it real love I can't imagine what anyone would be doing screwing around? If I lose interest in my partner, or the pleasure in our relationship becomes commatose I am gone. There is nothing saying anyone has to stay in an unfulfilling relationship so why would anyone screw around.....just go and find something new that is fulfilling if it's that dead. Why be completley selfish and just hurt soemone?

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:40 PM
ya, got you hickerchik, that's the fun of life a? Nothing is forever until forever from now you can look back and see that is was all good. In the meantime the signs are there although sometimes awful ambiguous.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:41 PM

IndnPrncs, I do believe that love is a condition that requuires sacrifice on both parts. Actually if it real love I can't imagine what anyone would be doing screwing around? If I lose interest in my partner, or the pleasure in our relationship becomes commatose I am gone. There is nothing saying anyone has to stay in an unfulfilling relationship so why would anyone screw around.....just go and find something new that is fulfilling if it's that dead. Why be completley selfish and just hurt soemone?


I'm not sure Monkey but some do.. What about the person you trust to love you and be with you not beat you, then they do.. Then they swear they'll never do it again, so you give them another chance and what do they do but beat you again and worse the next time.... That's not cheating but that's not a break of trust that can be forgiven...

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:42 PM



ya, do, and have. Sometimes 4 to long. But in love it's not all me. If she will acknowledge the betrayal, show some degree of sorry, love can restore trust with time and experience. There's an old saying, "fu-- me once shame on you, fu-- me twice shame on me, fu-- me thrice you are gone forever.......LOL


Some probably don't have the same degree of unconditional.. I am one of those.. You betray me you are not in my life anymore....


I swear I didn't know it was your furniture I was selling. I thought I was sending it to be cleaned.sad sad


don't worry honey I'll always forgive you..

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:43 PM


IndnPrncs, I do believe that love is a condition that requuires sacrifice on both parts. Actually if it real love I can't imagine what anyone would be doing screwing around? If I lose interest in my partner, or the pleasure in our relationship becomes commatose I am gone. There is nothing saying anyone has to stay in an unfulfilling relationship so why would anyone screw around.....just go and find something new that is fulfilling if it's that dead. Why be completley selfish and just hurt soemone?


I'm not sure Monkey but some do.. What about the person you trust to love you and be with you not beat you, then they do.. Then they swear they'll never do it again, so you give them another chance and what do they do but beat you again and worse the next time.... That's not cheating but that's not a break of trust that can be forgiven...


that is the worst kind of all. The person who is supposed to love you hurts you instead. I have scars that will never heal...some you can see, some you can't

monkey694u's photo
Sun 02/10/08 09:51 PM
I know hon, I hear you loud and clear. I suppose I just want to believe there are some out there yet that cherish love and all that comes with it. Until I find her I'll mbe alone. I did 9yr's knowing my ex was screwing around everytime I left as she continually accused me of doing it. When our kids were gone so was I and stayed there till now.
I nguess I was actually responding to the lesser betrayals and differences in a growing relationship. Far as I'm concerned there is never and acceptable excuse to screw around especially if you have a partner who is committed and true. Yes! I agree emphatically that is the worste type of betrayal!!!!!!!! And yes, it does hurt so far down that I didn't know feelings were that encompassing! Guess that's why I've been single since 1984 except for one special, wonderful woman who left me because of cancer way to soon. After the first nightmare she taught me to love and cherish beyond anything I ever knew before.