Very true, I do make exceptions all the time, within the law of course. I have met some very mature and intelligent 18yr olds before. But for the most part people my age are just not mature enough for me. And the reason I don't want to date someone much older than myself is because they are at a greater risk of dying way before me. I know that is not always the case but time is against them.

I myself said the VERY SAME thing. I have no doubt it is in my posts history from a few months ago.

Then I heard the person I'm now dating say, 'any time you have with a true love is a blessing. Would you throw away the chance for twenty fantastic years just because you could not have thirty?' And I opened my mind up a little more and my world. Jist a thought.

I understand that logic lilith. I just don't know if I could handle losing someone when I myself am still young.

That;s the beauty of being an individual with choice....Do what makes you happy!

Yes, I totally understand. You do what is right for you. All I mean is; stay true to yourself and try not to set too many limits on it, because you might limit yourself without intent.

You know whats best for you!! I won't date someone older than me, but thats just me.

No,

Age does matter. IMO

Oh if I felt like I were compatible with someone, I would throw MOST of my requirements out the window. The only one I will NOT waiver on is religion. Unfortunately that one has cost me, but cats and birds don't usually live together in harmony.

Thatta girl.... Keep the dealbreakers in place! Mine are drug users, video game addicts, gamblers... etc. Religion is more of a preference with me; I'm more concerned with politics!

<<<anarchist

Okay, I'm going to get SLAMMED for this.

Republican men tend to be, IN MY EXPERIENCE ONLY HERE PEOPLE, very passive aggressive. They believe they are right and try to control me. They look down upon my views in a very pitying way and there is no mutual respect as a a result. Without mutual respect, there is no chemistry. It tends to be a dealbreaker, each and every time. So I'd prefer an anarchist, yes.

Sounds like every man I have ever been with. They think they can control me and I am supposed to worship them. Sorry, aint happenin'. Or I am supposed to have sex with them whenever they want it.

I hope I can tell you, and have you believe me, when I say there are good men out there who aren't like this, and they are not taken. Some women don't know a good thing when they see it, and lucky for them fools they are fools, for they allow those wonderful, caring men to be single for the likes of us.

Men who would treat you with the respect you deserve and take time to do for you only in that it will make you happy. No motives, no hidden agenda. There is hope for all of us and that SO includes you.

Oh I know there are good men out there. I am just not actively seeking anybody right now. I just got out of a bad relationship a few months ago and am not really ready to get back into the dating scene. I have self esteem issues I am working on and until I get that fixed I can't truly love anybody else. I believe there is someone for everyone and we meet exactly when we are supposed to.

You are quite astute and I applaud you. If you're not loving yourself how can anyone else love you? Good point. You know, I'd be surprised if a man did not fall in love with you a little bit just hearing you say that. It sounds as though you are making more headway on the self-esteem than you might think. YOU GO, GF!

Bloody hell, without an age limit, you'd have a lotta guys old enough to be your dad hitting on you! <I know, kinda late in the thread, but I had to go shopping>

But what about me









Lamo

I have come a long way since October. I guess it's not so much a self esteem issue as I have let what people tell me get too deep in my head. People tell you something long enough, sooner or later you are gonna believe it. I know better, but words still hurt. But like I said, I have come a long way.

lol you are too funny and too beautiful

let yourself grow

weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee