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First of all, I am an incurable flirt. I will flirt with and/or compliment any lady, from 20 to 90. Well, I went to dinner tonight with my son. At the table next to us was a pair of ladies, one about 25, the other about 35. I was “flirting” with them, not suggestively, and complimented the older one on how well her light green sweater looked with her green eyes. OMG!!! Wrong thing to do. She ripped into me about being a sexist s.o.b., insulted my ancestry and my fatherhood with words I hardly expected so loud in a restaurant, demanded their bill, and over the complaints of the other lady about not finishing their dinner, insisted that they leave. After they left. My son(30) and I discussed women, compliments, and flirting. Our non-scientific analysis from our own personal experience was that the vast majority of women, say, under about 30, and women over about 50, respond “favorably” to flirting and compliments. Of those between those ages, at least half either ignore it, or are downright rude in their response. Is there a period of time in life when ladies do not want male attention or do they not want compliments on their appearance or what? In retrospect, in my discussion tonight, realized that I avoid flirting/complimenting ladies in that mid-range age because of the negativity of so many responses. Any insight available on this that might help me understand?
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Hey I have a green sweater and green eyes and you can tell me I look good in it any time. Don't lump us altogether ok? That woman obviously has some other troubles in her life. For what it is worth, I always can use some stroking, nothing like feeling pretty and sexy ya know. Keep it up!
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damn she needed some midol
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You should have told her the sweater looks even better now with the flared nostrils,smoke exiting her ears and the nice red tint showing in her eyes!! now thats telling them something.
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I would say the lady over reacted...
You were complimenting her. 
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She has issues, no question...I wouldnt take it personal. She is the one that has to go through life being miserable and unhappy....Keep doing your thing by spreading the cheer
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maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner....
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Over reaction all the way on her part. Keep the compliments coming.
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Yeah, something else probably had her going already, and it probably had something to do with a man. And for some reason, you tipped her right over the edge. It happens sometimes. It probably wasn't really you at all. It was just a trigger from whatever else was going on in her life and she exploded.
She overreacted. I don't know any woman that doesn't like some kind of compliment or other. Unless they are really mad at men over something at that given time. |
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hhmmmm..it's too long of a time span to blame it all on menopause...
I am 50 and you can pile on the praise, babe. I need all I can get. 
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First of all, I am an incurable flirt. I will flirt with and/or compliment any lady, from 20 to 90. Well, I went to dinner tonight with my son. At the table next to us was a pair of ladies, one about 25, the other about 35. I was “flirting” with them, not suggestively, and complimented the older one on how well her light green sweater looked with her green eyes. OMG!!! Wrong thing to do. She ripped into me about being a sexist s.o.b., insulted my ancestry and my fatherhood with words I hardly expected so loud in a restaurant, demanded their bill, and over the complaints of the other lady about not finishing their dinner, insisted that they leave. After they left. My son(30) and I discussed women, compliments, and flirting. Our non-scientific analysis from our own personal experience was that the vast majority of women, say, under about 30, and women over about 50, respond “favorably” to flirting and compliments. Of those between those ages, at least half either ignore it, or are downright rude in their response. Is there a period of time in life when ladies do not want male attention or do they not want compliments on their appearance or what? In retrospect, in my discussion tonight, realized that I avoid flirting/complimenting ladies in that mid-range age because of the negativity of so many responses. Any insight available on this that might help me understand? Man brother, sounds like you caught her on a bad day. Don't let her fool you. Sounds like she had some issues and they needed some attention. Be yourself and don't change because of one bad seed. |
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Edited by
nuenjins
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Sat 01/26/08 09:50 PM
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I think it is our culture. Being abrasive is commended as a sign of false strength and independance. Grace is somthing of an old fashioned virtue that doesn't provide the instant gratification that insult does to steal a persons energy. Negative energy is much easier to produce when positivity takes work and purpose. Humility and kindness take work and our culture has gotten so bad that even the women spout off as juvenile boys would do. It's a shame. Good, kind, gentle women are rare.
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She obviously has issues...
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maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner.... Lesbians like compliments, too. |
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Never, ever, compliment a lady that's sitting across the booth from you at a Chuck E. Cheese. There's your first lesson. (=
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I think it is our culture. Being abrasive is commended as a sign of false strength and independance. Grace is somthing of an old fashioned vitue that doesn't provide the instant gratification that insult does to steal a persons energy. Negative energy is much easier to produce when positivity takes work and purpose. Humility and kindness take work and our culture has gotten so bad that even the women spout off as juvenile boys would do. It's a shame. Good, kind, gentle women are rare.
true..but we exist. |
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Edited by
catchme_ifucan
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Sat 01/26/08 09:52 PM
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Your weiner is lookin cute tonight! 
Sounds like she needed a BJ! 
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damn she needed some midol Damnit I don't think the midol would have helped her shshshs 
Shshshshh hell I love it when a man says something nice even the flirting shshsh makes ya feel good to have someone notice you. Shshshssh she needs to get a life she will wish as the years goes by and they get less and less that she had been a bit nicer. 
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I also flirt w/all the ladies. I never ran into that prob.
I would say she was off her meds 
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maybe she was a lesbian... Wow, I usually just say thank you and blush... Then again maybe you gave her the que she wanted to try for a free dinner.... Lesbians like compliments, too. True darling but not always by men and the sexist comment seemed overboard.. |
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