do you think you would stay with a bf or gf if they could not stand up
to a parent or an ex?

I actually lived with someone who could not stand up to his ex..I had to
be the bad person or look like the bad person. It just created a lot of
chaos that I didn't want, so I ended up moving out and life is so much
better:)

Humm I need more info on the topic.. I know people who have not stood up
to an ex because its like having a lifeboat and you know you dont want
to rock your life boat. Dosent say much for moving on tho does it.

a good example would be if i'm divorced and my ex has no tie to the
house thatmy new spouse and i live in and when she comes over to pick up
the kids she acts like it is hers, just walks in without knocking and i
don't have the balls to tell her to get the hell out(well nicely first)
and it forces my new wife to do it and she looks like the bad guy for
doing something i should have done......or in the case of a mommas boy
or daddy's girl.

OMG that is exactly what happened to me. We just bought a house and his
ex wife would keep coming over...but they didn't have any kids. She
would just find excuses to come over to talk to him and look at our
house. I finally had to tell her to stop coming to the house because I
didn't want her in OUR home. I must admit, I did look like the bytch but
he wouldn't speak up.
Obviously, he liked the drama, so I just got tired of it and left. I
moved back to Indiana and now I live a stress free life..well almost!

My mom, like me, speaks her mind. The ex has said I am to passive on
what my mother has said about a few things but I have stood up to her on
a few issues. Alot of the time for family harmany you just keep your
mouth shut and let it go but there is a cut off point.

My ex after she first left kept walking in the house going straight to
the freezer or pantry area and getting stuff. Some of it was stuff I
asked her to take earlier and other stuff was what I bought for the kids
and I to eat. I said something everytime but it did not get through her
head until I told her get the hell out of what is now my house. I just
hated it had to happen in front of the kids to get through to her.

My ex still walks right in instead of knocking. But that is our country
up bringing. You open the door and anounce your presence with a close
friend or family. I know I even do this to a lesser degree when I went
to her house as they have no kids around so they could be in bed at
anytime.

Lock your doors, if unwanted people are just walking in...
Where do you live where people just keep their doors unlocked?
You don't do that kind of stuff in the city.
And if you live in the country and you think you are safe, maybe, but
evil is everywhere these days. Just cause nothing bad has happened yet
on your block or in your neighborhood, doesn't mean that it won't or
can't happen there.
Be careful, people!
Watch forensic files & the FBI files, &
America's Most Wanted.....please
maybe that will persuade you to protect yourself
and your family.

ain't it a trip how some people will ignore your every request and keep
ignoring it when it becomes an order. alot of times these types of
people will literally continue until you slap the hell out of them, the
funny thing is is that when it does come to that they want to make it
out to be your fault.

I wouldn't do it.

i AM SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU HAD TO MOVE. GUESS THE EX AND HIM GOT THE
HOUSE AFTER ALL...THATS HORRIBLE!!

this is a nice tread

hell no....

I would say no..I couldn't stay with them...

WELL I WOULD HAVE TO SAY NO I COULD NOT STAY WITH THAT PERSON, HOWEVER
SINCE I AM A PARENT, AND AN EX, I WOULD HAVE TO SAY THAT THEY BETTER NOT
STAND UP AGAINST ME....LOL

You should just change the locks on that front door and LOCK IT. There
is never any excuse for an ex to be this BRAZEN. I am dealing with a
mamas boy for an ex so i am going to leave it at that.

I agree with Morena about this thread being nice. Yeah how should this
be handled. I am thinking.....

kingbreeze why arent YOU standing up to your ex. If i was your new woman
i would have a BIG PROBLEM with YOU for not being man enough to stop
YOUR EX and her behavior. Just a thought!

Man I must say you need to stop her at the end of the drive and not let
this happen again. I would never disrespect a woman in this manner (i
mean your new spouse). The house belongs to you now and she (your ex)
has her own. The day my wife moved out I changed the locks and she has
never been aloud back inside. When she asked why she cannot come into
her own house I asked her for a key to her apartment so I could come and
go at will. It was amazing, she said no that it was her place (imagine
that).

So tell the ex to get it through her head and never let it happen again.
I would want the respect of my new spouse more than the ex.

I could not do it for one miniute king I need a man not a boy

it depends on the situation, however i think that because someone does
not stand up to an ex, a parent, a sibling etc
does not make them a whimp. noone knows the information/situation behind
that. in the example given- i would not expect to have that person
"argue" with the ex in front of the kids- not proper. what i might
expect is to relocate into a house that they did not "share" together or
for him to discuss it with her later or meet at a different location.