"grown children" that don't want you in their parents life? And the parent doesn't have the b@!!s to stand up to them??

I just say get out and never come back cause i didnt raise them to be like this

Don't quite understand ! But I guess you are a friend of the parents ! If so maybe you have done something or told about something that they don't like !

explain please?

They'll grow out of it & return to there roots. You need that hate as A parent or else they wont go away and spread there wings.

It seems harsh I know but we don't own our children. They don't ask to come into this world, we, in essence, invite them here and it's up to us to be good host to them. When they are young we have some influence, but as they get older it comes down to the only influence we have is to be good role models. Children rarely listen to what we say, but they always watch what we do. If you want them to be open & communicative, you should first check your own attitudes & then show them how by offering a safe place where they feel that they can just be themselves and in control of their own destiny. We all move away from pain and danger...we all all move towards pleasure and safety...

Are you dating someone and the kids are interfering? Is that what you are saying?

I was living with a man that had two grown children, girls, 18 and 21. They did everything in their power to push me away. They were "daddy's little princesses" and didn't want him to have anyone in his life, but them. He didn't have the nerve to stand up to them and let them know what HE wanted in his life.

needless to say I am not there anymore. But my heart is crushed. I loved this man with my whole heart.

My grandfather was dating a woman that my Aunts didn't like.
The Aunts let the woman know that they didn't like her. It was a mess. My grandfather married the woman. They were together when he died.

What a shame his children don't want him to be happy??

I am sorry to hear that ..Of course I am partial to that because I have a daughter..I hope all is well for you and I am sure what is best will work out

Well there isn't much u can do... he is in control of his life... and it seems like as hard a s it may be that u need to move on... u can wait and c if he comes to his senses... but I am sure this is not the first time...

God Bless him for standing up for what he wanted.

Don't blame the kids, it is HIS decision; not theirs.
Guess he didn't care as much as he did.
Be glad you made the split & can move on.

No, it's not...his oldest daughter has been running his life since she was three. And that's the truth! It's very sad...he has been alone for 20 years...I guess he wants it that way. He refuses to talk with me anymore. He'll talk to my son and grandkids, but not me, how crazy is that????

I will never understand why they treated the woman that way.
They got married in their 70's. My Aunts had their own families. Why wouldn't they want my grandfather to have a companion instead of living alone? It boggles my mind.

I know what you mean. People deserve to be happy, no matter what their age. If they are older and happy...let them alone.

I'd say you dodged a bullet on this one, don't be crushed, doesn't sound like he cared as much about you as you did him. And if he did, any man that won't stand up for someone he cares about isn't a man. And the fact that he wrote speak to you now just shows how much of a coward he realy is. Keep your chin up dear.

I sometimes feel there is no understanding men sometimes.... But if he chose his grown daughters over you and didn't even try to talk to them about what he wanted. You are better off. You may not feel like it now but in the end you are. I seem to keep picking men who say they want marriage or long term but really don't. I think I will become a nun. In time you will feel better and find someone who deserves you and treats you right.